(Closed) Progress…Sort of…Help! (Long)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Go to the jewelry store, find the non diamond ring you want, and see if they have it advertised in one of those booklets to show him. Usually non diamonds are under $400, sometimes way cheaper. That way he can see what you want, know that he can afford it, and then tell him that that’s what you want when he proposes!

Post # 4
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38 posts
Newbee

My Boyfriend or Best Friend won’t start a time line either. We have been together 4 years and he still won’t talk about planning our future. I just turned 39 and he is 36. I don’t know what he is waiting for. I am so frustrated. I do not want to be the 39 year old “Girlfriend” I’m too old to be a “girlfriend” !!

Post # 5
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2892 posts
Sugar bee

I make lists. Just because I forget things and it keeps me on track. It’s a tactic I learned from my friend. What I do is I write out all my thoughts in a letter, as if I was speaking to him, only more honestly. I pick out the main points and that’s what I talk to him about. Yes, sounds crazy and long-winded and no, I don’t take the list with me. 🙂 It’s a mental list. But when I’m able to say everything I want to say to him on a letter it helps me formulate what I really want to say later. I only do this for the big things.

Guys also have trouble keeping track of tons of details. The way you put it before was perfect:

1) I don’t need a ring to be proposed to 2) I’m perfectly fine with the way we are financially. We are able to support ourselves. We live together, all of our bills get paid on time, and we always have food in the house. I don’t see a need to be any more financially stable than that at this point in our lives.

Do you feel there is something holding you back from taking the next step?” Or something to that effect. Short and to the point.

I hope things go well. Good luck. Keep us updated.

Post # 6
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3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You’ve been quite for 6 months, it’s now time to speak up. Yes it’s a subject which shouldn’t be talked about all the time, but it is one you are allowed to speak about every so often, especially if you have major worries.

He’s obviously somewhat open to talking about it, pick a date and make time to just do it! Good luck!

Post # 7
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272 posts
Helper bee

What if you asked to go look at rings together? My SO suggested last weekend that we do so this upcoming weekend. I’m nervous and can’t concentrate on anything. But it’s for him, really, to narrow things down. Do you know if your SO has already gone and looked at rings? It wouldn’t hurt to ask!

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