(Closed) Promise Ring or Down On One Knee?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My husband proposed while I was sitting on his lap by basically pulling the ring out of his pocket and popping the question.  No, no fairytales will be written about our proposal, but it didn’t mean any less and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Post # 5
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486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I may be dense about jewelry, but I’ve seen some pretty substantial promise rings and some low key engagement rings. I think what matters is that you got engaged and got a ring as a “promise” to get married. A ring that is given as a promise ring has a different meaning. I see the reason linked to the ring designates it as a promise or e-ring. I also say you should take all that etiquette stuff in magazines and books with a grain of salt. Rules were made to be broken. 🙂 Congrats on your engagement! And now that your Fiance has an idea of some upgrades/gifts he can give you for future anniversaries.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I wanted a speech. Not even a long one, just a few nice things said. I didn’t get that. He didn’t get down on one knee either. We were sitting on a couch, I had my legs across his lap, and we were just watching TV. He just said ‘so… whenever you get back from overseas, will you marry me?’ It wasn’t elaborate or thought out at all. He just did it spur of the moment.

That was only last month, and just the other day he said ‘I’m sorry if my first proposal didn’t really ‘stand up’ you know?’ And he says he’s going to propose again when my actual engagement ring comes in. (We’re using my anniversary ring from our 2 yr anniversary right now, because he hadn’t planned on proposing so although he has the ring picked out, he didn’t have it in his possesion yet.)

At first, I was a little ‘disappointed’. Don’t get me wrong, I was excited. But I know girls who have gotten much more romantic proposals than me. When he apologized for it not being a great proposal though, I realized that it was actually very ‘us’ because he had asked me to be his girlfriend in the exact same situation 4.5 years before. Now I think it’s a cute little story for us and don’t mind at all. 🙂

So for us, it turned out that what was ‘lackluster’ at first glance was actually pretty cute in my mind. 🙂

Post # 7
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5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@JK_R: Sorry for being really dim, but what’s the difference between a promise ring and an engagement ring?

Post # 8
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11391 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My husband asked me outside of my mom’s house (when I lived there) in her driveway. He asked without a ring & didn’t get down on one knee. He did say sweet things & asked & we hugged & kissed. It was under the stars & was perfect. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

But it wasn’t anything you would see on a movie or in a book, no. But to me it was perfect, even without a ring!

 

Post # 9
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3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m sorry, I’m confused.  As far as I’m concerned, if you and your family understand it as an engagement, it countsn

 

My husband and I went for a hike when he proposed.  There are no pictures.  But we were engaged none the less.  And we are now married, no question.

Post # 12
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5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@JK_R: So as far as he’s concerned, he proposed, but you see it as a promise ring because it’s not big enough or the proposal wasn’t fancy enough?

Post # 14
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@JK_R: What makes it a promise ring?  Does it just have a small diamond?  I know there are lots of bees here that have smaller diamon rings.

Post # 15
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5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I still don’t understand. If he proposed with it, it’s an engagement ring. Is the diamond too small for your liking? As for the proposal, lots of girls have low-key proposals. I did.

Post # 16
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724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My proposal was very simple and kind of like Mrs.Estep’s. We were in the driveway of my parents house just goofing around playing basketball. He got down on one knee and proposed right there. It was sweet and totally him and I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. I got a very non-traditional ring as well- It’s a sapphire with diamonds surrounding it. I love my ring despite the fact that it doesn’t look like most engagement rings. If you are unhappy then you need to do whatever it takes to make yourself happy but personally I enjoy small, sweet, intimate proposals rather than a big, elaborate, out in the open proposal! I wouldn’t be ashamed of how you got engaged or what type of ring you got. Rings can always be changed but your love for each other is what is important! 

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