(Closed) Promise ring….am I being dramatic?? (rant)

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally i think it all depends on the man himself. YOU know your man and whether he is one who can voice his emotions and how he feels for you or whether he is a man of few words. Now if you were expecting something that was completely opposite of what he is like then yea you might be in the wrong a little about this since you know how he is, but if he good about being open and romantic then sure you have every right to have expected more. Also is this something completely worth being upset about, at least he did have a note attached! But it is up to you how you handle it and then learn from the situations! 

 

So none of these other women have any right to tell you whether it was or wasn’t out of line, it is just something you will have to look at yourself and realize. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@PinkBubbleGum:  I agree with your comment, “I also think some of the engaged bees don’t remember how hard waiting can be…” 

When I read posts like these, I remember when I was waiting for my Fiance to pop the question.  It was a bit difficult not to pout when he gave me gifts that weren’t an engagement ring, to be completely honest!  After thanking him profusely, in my mind I would think, “This is beautiful and thoughtful, but he could have put the money he spent on this towards a ring.”  I don’t care if anyone thinks that sounds ungrateful, or wants to tell me that I’m a snob because of it.  Because that’s what I thought and I’m being honest here.  I didn’t NEED a ring, but I NEEDED the commitment from him (he was very concerned about finances before he would consider getting married, and it was concerning to me because I was ready for the next step after 4.5 years of dating).

@ariakay:  I do understand your disappointment in hoping for an engagement, though still being grateful for the gift you’ve received is important!  Remember that your SO got you such a great gift because he loves you.  He might have thought that the ring spoke for itself, since you specifically asked for it.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Great ring! I like the etching(?) on the band.

And if you figure out how to reel in the control-freak, let me know! πŸ˜‰

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Did he make it clear it was a promise ring and not just a ring?

It’s a pretty ring! πŸ™‚

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

It is very pretty, and I love the band. πŸ™‚

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

ooo that is pretty! What kind of stone is that?

I didn’t mean to come off harsh or anything. I totally understand when expectations don’t live up and the waiting sucks! I can totally understand the fantasy football thing- what are up with men and their fantasy sports? 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@Helstrong: my boy went to a ff draft last wednesday (date day!) and will be going to one this wednesday too! Grrr…

@ariakay: Love the ring!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I feel you.  I’m recently engaged and I remember all too vividly how hard it is to wait! I don’t think any good could really come from sitting down and telling him how disappointed you are now, if you’re over it just let it drop. I love your ring, what kind of stone is that?

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Cool ring! 

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I have the same problem. When my husband “proposed” to me, he was in his underwear and he said “I have something for you” and then handed me the ring. So you’re not alone!!!

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Well, to be somewhat fair, I don’t think he had the time to put together anything and so I think if you didn’t know about the ring (or he didn’t know that you knew) he probably could have said something. It does take romance out of the equation when you hand him the ring and expect something nice to be said.

 

I don’t understand, is it a promise ring?

Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Considering you went and picked it up yourself because you were being impatient… I think you kind of cut him off at the pass.  It was his gift to you.  He should have picked it up, or gone with you (I’ll give you that)… it’s almost as if you went and got your own engagement ring handed it to him and expected him to say something.  The ball was totally out of his court, ya know?  I don’t know, I would think he felt a bit emmasculated. :/

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