Post # 17
I got mine after we had been dating for 7 months and in long distance. We were talking about moving in together at the time I got it, and he was about to graduate high school. It was another year before I got a proposal, and it really didn’t help the itch. lol. I love it, and even though I don’t wear it now that I have my e-ring, I keep it in a box on my night stand so I can look at it every now and then. It’s small, white gold, has each of our birth stones and our names. = )
Since you’re a little older than we were, I’d just wait for the real thing.
Post # 18
Yeeeahh… now that you guys mention it, I’m having second thoughts. Lol. I think I’m on board with the idea that it’s mostly appropriate if you’re either too young to get engaged, or are in a situation where it would be impractical to do so. I DO like the idea of just an “I love you” ring, just a present to have that would serve a purpose in showing people that you’re taken when worn on your left hand. Maybe I should tell my mom (who would be asked by SO) that I want a ring for Christmas. *Any* ring… although a big fat diamond wouldn’t hurt!!
Post # 19
@crimsonchik, every person’s situation is different. for us, a promise ring was our best option because when we do get engaged, we plan on having a short engagement. i personally am not a fan of long engagements. then why not wait to get get engaged a little longer? knowing that about myself, this was the way to go for us.
Post # 20
At this point in my life, the only ring that has any promise for me is an e-ring! My ex-boyfriend from high school got me a plain band as a “promise ring,” and God knows that turned out to be more of a mini shackle than anything. My current SO bought me a ring, but it’s just a gift. It seems pretty common for guys to buy their future wives a ring to feel out their tastes. 😛
@bellamargot: My ring’s a garnet too! Represent! I love the setting of your ring, btw. I’m hoping to have a band like that with three stones or so for an e-ring rather than a solitaire, since I already have one.
Post # 21
We always knew we were meant to be… right off the bat. We were 19 on our one year anni and he gave me my promise ring – “someday” & my heart is yours was the promise. We were in college and younge, but now I’ve had it for 3.5 years now and we’re getting to the engaged part soon! I’ll always love it, but its not satifying the itch anymore!!!
Post # 22
@minutiae that ring is gorgeous!
i’d also like to add that we were 26 and 27 when we exchanged our “promise” rings. did i feel corny calling it a “promise ring” at my age? yes, a bit. did it feel great to have rings on our hands showing we were “taken”? ABSO-FRIGGIN-LUTELY!
Post # 23
We both have one..Ours are mainly because I live in ga and hes in Pa and they are outward signs to show we are taken. I have a small green diamond and he has a band I bought him with the song of solomon enscription (I am my beloveds and my beloved is mine) in hebrew. I attached a real picture of mine and a stock one of his.
Post # 24
My FH offered to buy me a promise ring but I asked him to put the money aside to something else instead. I think it’s really cute though – but it wouldn’t have scratched my waiting itch at the time!
Post # 25
I got one such ring once we realized we were going to be together indefinetly. Unfortunately it was a $20 arts and crafts fair ring and the stone already fell out. I still have the stone and the setting in my jewelry box.
Post # 26
we got matching claddah rings in ireland, we got together so young we knew we would eventually get married but we decided to wait till after school to get engaged, so it was a promise someday when we have money ring. they were like 10 euro and sterling, but I LOVE mine.
Post # 27
I got a sort of promise ring on our 6 month anniversary but I wear it on my right hand. It was a great opportunity to chat about rings I liked though!
Post # 28
My Boyfriend or Best Friend gave me one for Valentine’s Day 2 years ago and I LOVE it. Yeah, I would rather have an engagement ring, but we are both still in school with very little money. The only problem I have with it is, when I meet people, they think I’m engaged. But I love that the Boyfriend or Best Friend thought to give one to me while we are finishing school.
Post # 29
Last year for Christmas my SO got me a ring… While he had no idea what a promise ring was (I think he is still hazy on it even after my mom asked him if it was a promise ring and then had to explain to him what that was) I think of it as one. It was the first major piece of jewelry he ever got me, and a considerable investment considering he and I were still full time students. Knowing how financially conservative he is, it showed me he was still planning on being together for quite some time… He’s all about return on his investment .
I wear it on my right hand though, I save my left hand for THE RING, when that time comes. And I know however great that will be, this first piece of jewelry he got me will always have sentimental value.
(PS- He took me with to pick it out, and I thought it was super weird how the sales person was talking about “upgrading” and getting the money from this ring towards another one… I’d rather keep my jewelry thankyouverymuch)
Post # 30
Personally I would find it silly. I want a proposal with an engagement ring because I’m traditional. However, there are many women that like getting a promise ring and that’s cool too. A friend was proposed to with a promise ring. They didn’t have enough money for an actual engagement ring so he got her that instead, and she sees herself as engaged. So it depends on the couple and what they feel comfortable with, but it’s not for me.
Post # 31
Here is a better view of my green diamond.. I cant wait to get my e-ring!!! (taken with my blackberry storm!!!)