Post # 1
A friend on my facebook recently posted a picture of her new promise ring and it got me thinking…. Promise Rings: Yay or Nay?
I remember promise rings being big in high school and junior high, which made sense to me because it was just too young to be serious about marriage but a nice way for serious young couples to make a different level of commitment at that age. However now that I’m 26 I don’t see them as logical unless you are in high school or maybe even college, but not out in the world of serious relationships. Maybe it’s just me, but after 18 I feel like you should just wait untill you’re actually ready for engagement or do nothing. What are other peoples thoughts?
Post # 3
@nattiejeanne: I’ve never understood promise rings. An engagement is the only promise anyone needs before marriage.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
I had a promise ring. It was a yellow diamond heart set on a pave white diamond band.i got it for christmas 2012 after we’d been together for about 4 years. I got my e ring august 18th 2013. We are not in high school. he’s 32
Post # 5
@nattiejeanne: Nah…Promise Rings, I think, were invented to get high school kids to spend more money on girls they are unlikely to marry…but still want to have awkward, elbowy sex with on prom night.
Post # 6
@nattiejeanne: When I was 19 and in college DH and I were not ready to be engaged for obvious reasons. We were however committed to each other and planned to have a future together. He gave me a .25 carat diamond ring which I wore on my right hand for years. When we got engaged he put it on my left hand and there it has stayed, no new one required to prove his commitment to me.
Post # 7
I have one. I’m 23. The reason I don’t have thousands of dollars on my finger is because I have bigger more important things that require my SO’s and my money. WE know that we have made a promise to each other to get married someday WHEN we can afford it.
I identify as a waiting bee, as in I don’t have my forever ring, but honestly I’m engaged. I can see how some/most people see it as a juvenile thing but everyone has their own reason for giving their partner a promise ring. I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to judge a couple for wanting to show their commitment to each other in “ring form.”
LOVE IS LOVE.
Post # 8
I think they are cute for highschoolers and what not, but that’s about it.
That’s just my personal preferance, though.
Post # 9
I understand promise rings if you’re in high school, kind of like wearing each other’s class rings. After that, no. I think my RHR is marketed by Zales as a promise ring, but I was still taken aback when people asked me if that’s what it was after FI gave it to me. We’re too old for that. I just like rings and have a collection.
Post # 10
My dh gave me a promise ring when I was 16 in high school and I wore it on my left hand ring finger for years until he replaced it with my ering. I agree it is something you do in high school but after hs I would just wait for the “real” ring. I remember in high school every girl wanted a promise ring from their long term bf lol I wanted one really bad but now looking back it was kind of immature.
Post # 11
@nattiejeanne: I think it’s cute when guys give girls say, their class ring or something. It’s a nice gesture, sweet, but not necessary and I think rings marketed as “promise rings” just come off as too much of a money grab for me. The sentiment is sweet, but spending more $ on it is silly to me. But then I am particularly frugal so I would think that way!
By the time I was in a committed relationship and a “promise ring” ever een came up I was like”save your money boy ;)”
Post # 12
@Peaceoutboyscout: I dont see why you would call it a promise ring in this case since you consider yourself engaged. Just because the ring didnt cost thousands you’re going to wait to make it “official”?
Post # 13
@lalalyanne: haha I agree. Zales and kays use “promise rings” to rip teenage guys off. Lol I was looking at walmarts promise rings not too long ago and they were the same quality diamonds as kays and zales but wayyy cheaper. I think my promise ring from kays costed around $300 and there were bigger and nicer ones at walmart for $100!
Post # 14
@nattiejeanne: In our case, my “promise ring” was technically an engagement ring, but seeing as he gave it to me after 2 months of dating, it was more of a proxy than anything else. After two more years, he had saved up for the ring he wanted to get me, and we became officially engaged. But as far as we were concerned, it was a promise for marriage ring, aka an engagement ring. He got it enscribed with something beautiful and meaningful, because he wanted me to have something that I wore with me! It was just a beautiful white gold band, and I still wear it.
Post # 15
I always thought they only existed on American Television and film…..
Post # 16
If people want them thats fine it doesnt bother me one bit. A lot of my friends had promise rings in highchool, just not my thing though.
My opinion is, youre either engaged or youre not. A promise ring is just a pre-engagement, so youre promising to be engaged to be married. If you love someone enough to promise that you will eventually be engaged then why not just propose?