- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Fiance and I never really discussed this, until the idea of doing hair/makeup with my bridesmaids just came up. It turns out, we each have a different “idea” on what the “logistics” of us getting married would be.
Background: We are in a long-distance relationship (he’s in the army). I live at home with my parents near Toronto. His parents live in London, Ontario, about 2 hours away. Bridal party is mostly from the Toronto area (where the wedding is happening), although guests will be a mix of local and from other cities.
My idea of wedding night/morning:
Rehearsal + dinner out. I spend the night at my parent’s home (bridesmaids stay over as long as they want). He is at a hotel near the reception hall with his groomsmen and out of town guests. OR we all hang out at the hotel as a group, but bottom line is that I go home to spend the night, and he stays at the hotel, and we don’t see each other until the ceremony. I have bridesmaids come over on the morning of (if they aren’t spending the night) and we do hair/makeup, etc. and my mom is a part of all this.
His idea od wedding night/morning:
We both stay at the same hotel, and so do both our families (this doesn’t make sense to me because my parent’s home is 20 mins away and I don’t see them wanting to go to a hotel and pay extra $). We either get a shared room (me and him) and he stays up with his family/friends while I go to bed early and he comes in later that night (I have expressed I will want to get my rest the night before; he expressed he wants to spend time with family he never gets to see, flying in from Europe) or we get separate rooms entirely (him + groomsmen, me + bridesmaids, which I don’t like because I am a super private person and not close enough with all my bridesmaids that I’d want to share a room…but I also don’t want to be in bed early alone the night before the wedding!) In the morning, we are in separate rooms, and my mom comes over, and hair/makeup artists come to hotel to prep all the girls together.
I’m not sure what we should do? I really want to either spend the night with everyone, then have him & me go back to our hotel room at the same time and go to bed (so I’m not just in bed alone, going stir crazy, lol) or just be at home with family and let him do his thing and stay up late and just see him the next day. I also really want to include my mom in on the “prepping” festivities on the morning of, and have her hair & makeup done by the smae person as me, but it’s silly for them to spend the night at the hotel or rush over the next morning when they could be getting ready at home.
How did you do it? Anyone just spend the night at their parent’s home with their Fiance stayed in hotel? Anyone had bridal party get ready in parents home?
I have no idea what the proper “etiquette” for these types of things are!