(Closed) Proper etiquette for the night before/morning of the wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think there’s etiquette beyond the tradition that the bride and groom not see eachother until the wedding.  Waking up together will ruin that off the bat lol, but it’s just a tradition, it’s not really etiquette and does not need to be followed lest you offend the etiquette gods.

It sounds like you’re most comfortable staying at your parents’ place; why not do that?  It won’t really affect his plans since you’re planning to go to bed early anyway.

I have to say it’s nice to have everyone staying at the hotel, but expensive.

Post # 4
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Isn’t it crazy all the little details you have to figure out for a wedding?! Uft! 

I don’t think there is any kind of etiquette for it. I think it’s more a matter of what you want to do and what works best logistically. 

After our rehearsal and dinner I’m planning on staying at the hotel probably with my sister. And my Fiance will probably sleep at our apartment. I plan on having my bridesmaids come to my hotel suite to all have our hair and makeup done there. I’m not totally sure where the Fiance is going to get ready but he’s 33 years old so I’m hoping he can figure it out! Haha! 

Post # 5
206 posts
Helper bee

I dunno where Adam is staying the night before, probably at one of his brother’s houses…maybe at our house. But me and all my bridesmaids (and my bridesman) are staying in a 3-room “suite” at the same hotel that I blocked rooms at. So there’s a king room, a living room, and a two-queen-beds room. in the morning, He & all the guys are going to get all the booze set up and help out at the venues with direction, etc. (ceremony and reception at separate places). Me and all my “ladies” will be going to the hair salon to have hair and makeup, and to the nail salon for mani/pedi (the nail salon is next door from the hair salon, we’ll be divided by half, then switched back and forth). Meanwhile, my mom and her BFF will be going to a salon near the hotel to get done up (my mom’s medical issues prevent her from being able to come with us, so i am paying for her and her BFF to go get their hair/makeup/nails done) afterwards, we will all (mom’s crew and mine) meet up at the hotel and get dressed!

Post # 6
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

The night before it will be my 3 daughters my Maid of Honor and myself in a hotel room. We will get ready in that room and then After the wedding it will be the room that Fiance and I will stay in. I am super excited about this as well.

Post # 7
15 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why not do a little bit of both? Let him go to the hotel with his friends and you go to your parents like you originally wanted? That way you both get what you want.

I don’t think it matters what you are “traditionally” susposed to do…I think whatever works for you as a couple is what you should ultimately do! 


Post # 8
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My cousin had just her Maid/Matron of Honor (actually, she had no bridesmaids) stay with her the night before.  You may not be close to all of them but what about inviting *one* to stay with you that night?

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