Post # 1
This is a sad post to write. My grandfather passed away last night and we are currently getting arrangements together for his funeral. It will be held out of town, so we’ll be traveling to be with family very soon and I’m just making preparations to do just that. I’m having a bit of a hard time figuring out what I need to pack clothes-wise, so I’m turning to you bees for advice. We’ve got to put a bit of a rush on things as we have some family moving across the world very very soon, so unfortunately there won’t be much, if any, time to buy something new.
I know that the traditional colour to wear is black, or other dark colours. But I feel that the black clothing I own is either too formal (evening attire), or not formal enough (summer weather). I do have a few articles that are dark colours, but as a breastfeeding mom, they just aren’t practical. I would normally ask to borrow something from a friend at a time like this, but unfortunately there isn’t time to meet up with anyone.
I have one dress that is a modest length, conservative fit, and I can nurse the baby with it…but it’s a soft salmon pink colour. Something about this makes me feel it’s too bright or “cheerful” a colour to wear. I also have a light tan skirt that I usually wear with a white collared shirt that has a thin navy pinstripe through it. But again, this seems a bit off somehow. The dark dresspants and skirts I own unfortunately don’t fit after baby just yet.
Any advice or suggestions bees?
Post # 3
@lavenderstone: Honestly I would just go buy a pair of dark pants that fit whatever size you’re in now and wear them with the white shirt. And maybe a dark cardigan over the white shirt. When my cousin died a few years ago I had no dress clothes at all, so I just had to go find whatever I could (which is not easy in plus size) that looked decent and respectful. I completely get the breastfeeding Mom issue, been there, totally with you, but pink? No, I can’t say that would go over too well.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
About a year ago FI’s grandmother passed away, I worse plain black pants and subtle patterned top with a black cardigan over it. FSIL who was breastfeeding at the time wore just a plain black dress over black leggings and had a black cardigan on too. I would just look for something simple and inexpensive to buy along these lines.
Post # 5
Anything dark, such as navy or black. I definitely wouldn’t wear salmon. I would find ten minutes to run into a store you know and buy a pair of black dress pants to wear with an existing dark sweater or top you own.
I am sorry for your loss.
Post # 6
@lavenderstone: I’m so sorry for your loss. I think this would be an appropriate time to buy something for this sad occasion. I had a situation where I didn’t have anything appropriate to wear when my FI’s grandmother passed away so I bought a cheap pant suit from the juniors department at Macy’s. New York and Company has so many coupons online that you could use to get 40% off your purchase and their merchandise is nice quality. I would get some black slacks and a button up to make breast feeding easier.
Post # 7
You could find a cute black wrap dress at Target for $30 or so I would think.
Post # 8
@lavenderstone: I think the salmon dress could be okay, depending what your grandfather/family is like. If you consider a funeral to be more like a celebration of his life, then I think it’s a great choice. 🙂 Besides, your presence is what matters. But I’ve never been to a funeral, so maybe some other bees can give input.
Post # 9
@Gem_Fem: +1. Especially if teamed with a darker jacket, coat or cardigain perhaps. And again only depending on what you think your faimily would like. I have unfortunatly been to several funerals recently. There was very little black at any of them, at one we were requested to wear bright colours and odd socks as that is what the family felt our friend would have wanted to see. Maybe speak to some family members and check what they think would be preferable.
Post # 10
Not everyoe in my family comes dressed in black. In fact, one family (we have… a lot of funerals for some reason) usually comes in brighter colors. We don’t judge.
I would wear the khaki skirt with a black shirt (doesn’t need to be a button down, can be a more casual one that’s easy to feed with), black cardigan and black tights – I think that would be just fine.
[ETA] The salmon dress would be OK, too – again, with a black cardigan and black tights, it will still be appropriate.
Post # 11
I’m sorry for your loss.
I’ve (unfortunately) been to a lot of funerals in the past year or so and haven’t seen much black.
People care more that you showed up rather than what you are wearing. Your salmon dress, a black jacket, and comfortable shoes will be fine.
Post # 12
Thank you all so much for your advice! I’m feeling better about which route go now. It’s hard to concentrate on details like this when there are bigger things to organize and figure out, but I really do appreciate all your condolences and you taking the time to respond. *Hugs*