(Closed) Proper responses to an engagement announcement

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

My friend stopped talking to me out of the blue. There’s always that. lol

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I got engaged a few months after graduating college, and I was disappointed that many of my college friends (not best friends, but people who I spent quite a bit of time with) didn’t say a word.  No call, no text, not even a “like” on facebook.

And then, I learned that they had been going around reporting on my engagement to other local students and professors.  I heard through the grapevine that they all said very nice things, but seriously, if you can’t even call me, please don’t share my news with people who I haven’t had a chance to talk to yet.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Train87BEE:  If this is all a facebook exchange, I wouldn’t worry about it. Sometimes I feel it’s redundant to be the 50th person to post “congratulations”. I just “like” the post and leave it at that.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Idk, I think rude would be something along the lines of: “wow, that’s all?” “why?” “not my taste, but good for you!”

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Train87BEE:  My mom told me “well if  that’s what makes you happy” in a super unenthusiastic tone.   :-/

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@Train87BEE:  LOL some people could tell you “I love your shoes” and you’d know it’s an insult based on the person

Post # 12
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6360 posts
Bee Keeper

A friend pointedly ignored it.

Eventually it came out that it was because she had a crush on my FI (she’s married).

Post # 14
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502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am probably not going to make a facebook announcement for the same reason that I don’t have my birthday on facebook.  It’s redundant.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I generally don’t comment on Facebook when there are a ton of other likes and comments. Mine will just get lost among the crowd anyway. I will congratulate them in person or call. 

We didn’t get a “congratulations” from my FI’s stepmother. I thought that was really odd. His dad took me aside to talk and was very sweet. His sisters came up and didn’t really say much but they admired the ring and said it looked great. We had been “unofficial” for quite some time, so I dismissed the lack of excited attention on that. Then his stepbrother (stepmom’s son) came up to me at the end of our day with the family and was like, “By the way, congratulations! No one was saying anything so I didn’t know if it was a secret or whatnot, but I wanted to officially welcome you to the family.” That sort of underlined even more how the stepmom and those under her influence were just ignoring us. But it was very sweet of him.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

@futuremrsk18I legit LOL-ed at this. Don’t you just love when people go crazy?!?!?

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