Post # 1
Does anyone know the correct way to address an invitation to an entire family without using an inner envelope? We simply cannot afford to have both inner and outer envelopes, so that option is out of the question. I know that the names of everyone invited need to be written down somewhere, but I don’t know how to do it. I want to say that I’ve read that each child gets their own line, but since some of FI’s family members have six kids, it would get a bit ridiculous:
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
Miss Jane Doe
Master Jonny Doe
Master Jonathan Doe
Miss Joan Doe
Miss Jean Doe
Miss Jeanette Doe
123 Main Street
Anytown, TX 12345
See what I mean? Does anyone know a better way?
Post # 3
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe & Family ??
Post # 4
In that situation we just did The Doe Family. On the rsvp cards we had: We have reserved ____ seats in your honor. So we filled in the appropriate number in the blank. So far no problems.
Post # 5
I just did the Doe Family as well. Then, on the RSVP card, I just put the (6) of us are planning on attending. That way they know that they are all invited.
Post # 6
Thank you for your responses. You think that would work? I’ve just read so many people talking about the problems that just writing “family” can cause.
I’ve added a poll. I would appreciate any other input!
Post # 9
You asked what is correct, right? Not for what compromises or common practices are available as an alternative.
MOST correct, even moreso than using an inner envelope, is to have your invitations printed with a write-in line where you write the names of the guests on the invitation itself. You can google Will & Kate’s wedding invitations, or the then-Princess Elizabeth’s for that matter, to see that this is what Buckingham Palace uses (in case you need some higher authority than Aspasia Phipps 😉 Such an invitation is worded as follows:
Miss Aspasia Phipps
requests the pleasure of the company of
Mr and Mrs Doe
Miss Doe, Master Doe, Master Jonathan, Miss Joan, Miss Jean, Miss Jeanette
to the wedding of her niece
Mr Dream On
The bold italic bit is hand-written. Since this is a social document, social names and titles are used, which means that the surname and given name are never used together. The most senior holder of a surname/title pair gets the surname; junior holders of that surname and title have to use their given names. I was never so happy as when my sister Medea married and I got promoted from Miss Aspasia to Miss Phipps.
The envelope, which is a business document between you and the post office, is then addressed to whomever at the Doe household handles social correspondence: generally “Mrs. Jane Doe” outside of the old U.S.ofA., and “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe” in that more-egalitarian nation.
If you have already ordered your invitations without the write-in line, you are stuck. I’d be inclined to use the back of the invitation in lieu of the inner envelope, and write the names there, or use a second envelope JUST for the multi-child families. I strongly dislike the practice of putting the names of minor children on the outside of a large envelope that may end up propped up outside an apartment or neighbourhood delivery box for the neighbourhood perverts to read while they plot their next conquests.
Post # 10
@aspasia475: I’ve already printed all my invitations, so yeah, we’re stuck without the line to write names. :- Getting a second envelope JUST for families with children is a pretty good idea, though. I’ll have to look into the cost. We might be able to afford just a few. Thank you!
Post # 11
I did “The Doe Family” in these instances. I feel like if that’s not clear enough they will get in touch to ask etc., But yes, hopefully that will make enough sense on it’s own!
Post # 13
I have had friends had issues with using “and family” as people than invited their grandma, their father in law, etc and argued that they are “family.” I would list them as Mr. and Mrs. Sam Smith, and than on the second line – Susie, Sam, and Sarah Smith. They are kids its ok to drop the formality.