Post # 1
I have an absolutely amazing boyfriend (after a previous failed engagement, and a few dates/ not-quite-right relationships). I think he might be the one, although it’s too early to commit. While we haven’t discussed our futue with each other in any depth, we both think marriage is imposrtant, and agree about our feelings on having children. He was going to move for work, but found a way to stay in order to stay with me. He may still have to move next year, and has said he would want me to go with him.
Recently, we were on a cheesy movie kick, and ended up watching Leap Year (a woman travels to Dublin to propose to her boyfriend on leap day) and it sparked a conversation. He told me he likes the idea of being proposed to, and thinks it’s dumb that it’s only socially acceptable one day, every 4 years.
What does this mean? I mean, I know what the words mean, but I don’t know exactly what it means for me. I’m not opposed to the idea. I’m not the super-romantic type, so not being proposed to isn’t a big deal to me, but these are things I’ve never had to think about before. I feel like it’s too soon just yet, but what is an acceptable timeline (to most people)? How does a woman propose to a man? He doesn’t wear jewelry, so a ring seems like a bad idea. But the only type of proposal I’m familiar with is the “down on one knee with a ring” type. I’m at a complete loss.
Any advice you can offer would be much appreciated.
Post # 2
I proposed to my husband!
You can use anything that’s sentimental to you two or just words! You could plan a surprise trip or simply say something sweet, a lot of women use watches. It depends on how you two are as a couple. I got my husband a stuffed animal that looked like his dog who we both very much love and dressed her up in a little bride outfit. Then I had a little voicebox of my voice recorded to ask him to marry me. I also did get him his own “engagement ring” because he liked the idea of wearing something too. Ended up being that he had my ring ready and was actually going to propose the next day on Christmas so he popped it out and got on one knee and that’s how we both said yes.
As for the timeline, I think that depends on a lot of factors. I don’t think there is or should be a set time frame for a proposal because relationships mature at different rates depending on: emotional maturity, age factors etc etc etc. There’s so many factors. Also I think it depends on how much you’ve discussed your future life together, finances and goals for the future and if you are on the same page or have compromised to be on the same page.
Post # 3
My brother’s fiance proposed to him. It was really simple and sweet. They had plans to go out for dinner for their anniversary and she basically wrote him a letter that she read to him at the dinner. It had all of the reasons she loved him, all the reasons they are a great team, all the things they planned to do together (which included getting married), and then she basically ended it with a ‘will you marry me?’. She didn’t get down on one knee or give him a ring, but they considered themselves engaged from then on. I think they did go out and buy a ring together a few months later, but they started wedding planning right away (now scheduled for July 2020 yay!).
Knowing both of them really well I love that this is their proposal story. My brother was totally in love with her and wanted to marry her but she’s always been the organizer in the relationship and it just sort of fit them. He’s also very progressive thinking and an outspoken feminist so he was not threatened at all by the gender norm swap, though he did tell me he felt a bit embarrassed that he didn’t get his act together to propose to her. But at the end of the day he said he was just so happy to marry the woman of his dreams, his only concern about her proposing was that maybe he let her down in some way. Once she ensured him that wasn’t the case, he was fine with it.
I think this kind of proposal can work for a couple who are very open communicators already. My brother and Future Sister-In-Law had already talked a lot about marriage, were living together, knew it was in the plan. And she made it clear that this was a proposal, not just another conversation. I don’t think it would work for everyone but if you think it fits your relationship I say go for it!
Post # 4
There are some great proposal stories on the website howtheyasked, which includes pictures & stories of both girls and guys proposing, to give you ideas.
I’ll be the one proposing in our relationship (all planned for this Wednesday – ahhh!), and being quite a bit shorter, I worried about on-one-knee and all that – but I’m going for it.
Post # 5
How does a woman propose to a man?
Any way she wants to.
Since it’s still early, you may want to give it time for some ideas to evolve organically. Start paying close attention to cues about things that are especially meaningful to him. Take good mental notes.
And, yes, definitely, search around for some inspo. Try to have fun with it. The best proposal will be the one that is clearly customized just for him and for the two of you as a couple.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
I proposed to my fiancé! He requested it haha. He also picked out a ring which I purchased in august and held until March when I proposed on a whim on a particularly romantic feeing night. It was amazing and we both cried. He proposed to me about a week later as we were leaving for a wedding. We had been together just over 2 years. It was amazing and scary and my heart was pounding the whole time. Later we realized it was St. Patrick’s day! So we’ll always remember the date. I highly recommend if you think he’ll be receptive to the idea!
Post # 7
I’d wish you luck, but I’ve seen your thread, and it sounds like you don’t need luck. You’ve got this!
Post # 8
I would love to propose to my fiancé! I actually already started planning but then he proposed first, I don’t give up tho. I already have another plan in my head. I always wanted to be proposed at aquarium, so I will bring him there! And I know he loves jalapeños Popper so I will propose with that but it might be difficult to keep it warm so I might use something else instead that I still need to think about it 😆