(Closed) Proposal and choosing your own ring

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

I really wanted input on my ring so we went and looked/tried things on together (or you could do this alone if this doesn’t work for you two. Just make sure either the shop, a friend or family member, or Pinterest knows what you like, and he knows where to find that information). We agreed on a setting style and stone shape. Then it was left up to him. He knows what I like, but he gets to choose his budget, when (and where) he buys it, and when and where he’ll do the actual proposing. 

This is not an immediate process for us. We have decided what we like, and he is in the process of finalizing it. And though I know I’ll recieve the proposal (and ring) soon, I don’t know exactly when/where/how. Best of both worlds!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

 

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vdvjenna:  FI and I had my ring custom made because of how picky I am. We went to the jeweler, had the entire thing designed and then when Fiance was ready to have it made he’d just call them and tell them.

This way worked because I got the exact ring I wanted, but he got to get it when he was ready so it was still a surprise.

Except it kind of backfired because the owner of the jeweler(small town) accidently ordered the ring, so a few weeks after we designed it Fiance got a call saying it was ready (oops, haha!). He went to pick it up and then I later accidently found a picture on his phone of it. He just gave it to me then because I’m not romantic and I was actually terrifed about the proposal.

I think showing him ideas would be great! Maybe even see if he’d like to go “window” shopping, then he’ll know your ring size also ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

He asked me to go with him and we would pick out the ring together. He then held onto it for a bit and proposed when he was ready. My mom and dad also did something similar but he proposed first (I think with no ring?) and then they went and picked it out….

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

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vdvjenna:  Have you actually discussed marriage? That would be a logical first step. Make sure you are on the same page, especially timeline-wise. 

My SO and I had discussed the future quite a bit. We had set a timeline. Then, after some thought, he decided to move the timeline up and, together, we decided to go shopping for a ring. So it was really a process, it progressed pretty naturally.

I wouldn’t just jump into it, right into ring talk. Take your time with the conversations about the future, make sure it all feels right. When timelines and expectations (for both of you) are figured out, the time to shop for a ring will make sense. 

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Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

 

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vdvjenna:  My Fi and I picked out my ring together. We went shopping together and found a setting, then found a london blue topaz that I had chosen. It took 1 day of setting shopping then WEEKS of looking for a stone.

Then Fiance went, had it set and I never saw the final product. I knew he had the ring so I didn’t bring it up.

It was several months, later he proposed to me in the gardens of my favorite museum next to a stream. It was perfect and a beautiful surprise.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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vdvjenna:  I did shopping online and narrowed it to 2 styles and emailed them to hi. I was still very surprised, he picked the one he liked best and the time and place which was sooner than expecte.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

We went shopping and tried rings on together to get an idea what i liked. I looked around a bit and found the setting i wanted online and sent him the link to it. He went to a local jeweler and picked out a diamond himself to be set in the setting i had showed him. I knew where he was the whole way so it wasn’t that much of a surprise. But the actual day he did it… i hadn’t even been thinking he’d do it that day. I’m not really sure how he got the ring in the car with him without me noticing.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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vdvjenna:  The proposal wasn’t exactly a surprise, as we had talked about doing it around Thanksgiving.  After 8 years, I’m not sure it would have really been a surprise anyway. 

 

He proposed to me in our home and then we went out about an hour later to pick out my ring together.  He said if it’s going to be on my finger forever, then I should get a say in what it looks like.  And it’s a good thing we did it that way, because once we got there, I went with one that was the opposite of all the pictures I’d sent him. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016 - Long Island, NY

My Fiance and I went ring shopping together- we stopped at a few places in NYC Diamond District, we looked online, and we tried things on. We discussed what we liked and what we didn’t like, what sizes looked ridiculously big/small, which shapes made my fingers look fat/nice (I have extremely short fingers/overall tiny hands). He then took all of that information and went to an entirely different jeweler, deisgned it himself, and picked it up when it was ready. He did not tell me when he was going, what he was doing, etc. We live together so I had an idea something was up, but I couldn’t be sure until he finally proposed. It was a surprise only because of where/when he did it, not that he did it in general. ๐Ÿ™‚ I still felt extremely special, it was still just as exciting, and my Fiance is happy that he is confident that I love my ring to pieces!

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I really wanted input on my ring. What’s funny is I had pinned a million brilliant cut solitaire’s with really skinny bands, and as soon as we got into the store I realized I didn’t like them at ALL on my hand.

So we tried on a bunch of rings, I picked a style, we went to a few custom places, and then Fiance put a deposit on a ring. (I ended up getting a gorgeous oval diamond with a halo and pave band, and peekaboo birthstones (one on each side) under my diamond). 

It was about 5 days before we left on vacation to St. Lucia that he put the deposit down, so I knew there was no chance my custom ring would be ready in time. He proposed in St Lucia on a sunset cruise with a standin ring he bought there (like under $20, not an expensive one) and it was perfect! I got the surprise I wanted (because I didn’t think it was possible to have a proposal on this vacation), and I got to help design a ring that I LOVE.

About a month later, I got a second proposal in a vineyard we were looking at as a venue with my new ring. It was PERFECT. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

We were funny, we booked the venue and date we wanted a couple months before he proposed. So I kind knew and had my finger sized. I found a ring at Zales (no shade to the Zales girls, I promise) but he didn’t that he couldnt pick the stone out himself. I was pretty nervous and emailed him pics of 4-5 examples of bezel set rings I liked. He went to a custom jeweler and had drawings done, was a little nervous and gave me a sneak peak. I gave some constructive criticism and he surprised me with a ring better than I knew I wanted. It was perfect teamwork and yet surprise!  Ya know, I love this man. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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vdvjenna:  DH and I went shopping together, looked at lots of rings until we found a setting that we agreed was ‘the one’ we spoke with the sales consultant, discussed what I thought was important in the diamond and then said I wanted nothing to do with picking the stone, didn’t want to know when he did it, nothing.

Dh then went back on his own 5 or 6 months later (maybe more, I’m not 100% sure) and ordered the ring.  I know he said he got ‘upgraded’ on the diamond, they talked him into better than I said I wanted (which is fine – it was still in the budget we agreed on) but I didn’t know he’d purchased it.

He proposed as soon as he had the ring – partly because he sucks at keeping secrets and partly because it was supposed to be my Birthday present but it took longer than they told him and ended up being 10 days late.

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