(Closed) Proposal and choosing your own ring

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

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vdvjenna:  I designed my own ring. We had been together for a while and had obviously talked about getting married many times. We live together and share finances and goals. Every year we make a few financial goals together so that we can focus our money to make a bigger impact. Some are short term goals and some are long term goals. We each write down what is important for us to acheive and sometimes they overlap, and sometimes they don’t. Our 2014 goals were – pay off my student loan by 25%, save 10% of our salaries towards a house, buy an engagement ring, and go on vacation to Australia to visit his sister and our nephews. So once we had that conversation, we both knew that 2014 would be the year we would get engaged. Whenever we were at a mall we would stop into a jewellery store to try on some rings and neither of us found something we liked. So we went to a family friend who is a jeweller and designed my ring together. Since we share finances (and I’m the family CFO), I knew when the ring came in because of large amount of money leaving the savings account!

He had the ring for 3 months and waited until we were on the beach in Australia to propose. 

Post # 17
3302 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We got engaged after six months of dating. He asked me to marry him on a ski trip and the next week we went into NYC and bought a ring. So there was no ring in the proposal, but that wasn’t the important part anyway.

Post # 18
64 posts
Worker bee

I also designed my own ring. Once we already had a few general marriage discussions, I knew I would want to have a lot of input on my ring, but I wanted to make sure it was ok with him, so I just asked. I asked if he would want to go to a store together, or if I could just look around online for things I liked and come up with something on my own. He said I could do whatever I wanted, so I did! I found the jeweler and discussed the design with them. I didn’t keep my now Fiance in the loop as much during the design process so it was a surprise for both of us when the ring came in a few months later. He hid the box from me (so I wouldn’t be tempted to just stare at it all day) and waited two months more to propose to me on Christmas day. 

Post # 19
1325 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

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vdvjenna:  We picked it together, but i had never seen it with a stone inside. It surprised me!

Post # 20
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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vdvjenna:  he initiated looking at rings just to get an idea of what I would like.  It was June and I was told he couldnt financially make it happen until dec-February.  So he explained he wanted ideas so when the time came he knew he would pick something I loved and I could have a surprise proposal.  We both don’t agree on upgrading an engagement ring so we looked for it to be my “forever” ring.  Went to probably 10-15 jewelry stores and I picked out three that were my top favorite.  He never gave me a budget so I just went with what I liked an thought he would be able to afford without having him go broke for a year.  I picked out three rings and he had the jeweler write the specs and styles down so he could do research.  

Less than 2 weeks later we were engaged.  He ended up buying two of the rings and proposed with the one he thought I loved but brought the other ring just incase it wasn’t.  I was absolutely so shocked,  I can’t even remember to this day what he actually said to me I was just floored.  Of course the one he proposed with was the one I absolutely loved.  

Post # 21
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016


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vdvjenna:  Originally I wanted him to pick out the ring himself, so I sent him 2 or 3 pics of what I liked. Months and months later, he tells me he’s been ring shopping (!!! yay!) and having trouble picking something out because “they all look the same” and suddenly I wanted to help pick it out. We went shopping together after that, picked out the perfect ring, and then he told me he would propose sometime in the spring so I put it out of my mind. Instead, he proposed the weekend after we picked it out (12/19/14) and I was SO surprised because I believed him when he said Spring. It was also right before I went home to visit family and friends for Christmas so I got to share the news in person and show off my ring. I knew it would happen eventually, but he still wanted to be a surprise which I loved. He hid the ring in the Christmas Advent calendar so when I opened the little door for Dec 19th, the ring was inside!

Post # 22
2608 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We had talked about getting married, and he asked me for ring ideas…then asked me which ONE I wanted. The jeweler he went to kept pushing him to make changes to it (thus making it cost more) and my now DH just gave up and told me all this and asked for my help. He had tried to buy the ring I wanted three times from one jeweler and each time walked away empty handed.

So in the end we went to another jeweler, walked in together, told her exactly what we wanted and he bought it. They needed to size it and kept it a secret from me when it would be ready*. He proposed within the week by taking me to the spot we had our first date. Knowing it was coming didn’t make it any less special for me and I got exactly the ring I wanted.

*Turns out the ring was ready a few hours later for pick up but he held off on picking it up for a couple days so I’d be a little more surprised. 

Post # 23
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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vdvjenna:  I picked out my ring all on my own, and then asked DH for his opinion once I was pretty settled. He said he liked it, so I emailed him the link with ordering instructions and pretty much forgot about it. I knew the proposal would be soon, I just didn’t know how soon. I had no idea when he had actually ordered the ring, and he had it shipped to his parents’ house so I wouldn’t catch on. I started to get a little antsy, because a couple months had gone by since I’d sent him the link, but then his sister got engaged so I figured he’d put it off a few more months. I was wrong, and he proposed 10 days after his sister’s proposal! He ended up surprising me with a beautifully intimate botanical garden proposal on a Sunday morning. So, I was still surprised even though I’d been so involved with choosing my own ring. Now I have a ring on my finger that I absolutely adore, and DH didn’t have to stress about trying to pick & paying for something that I would like.

Post # 24
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We went to a big jeweler at his suggestion to try some things on and get an idea of what I liked and didn’t like. Then we were given my grandmothers wedding set and after some deliberation decided to find a local jeweler that we trusted to put the stones in a new setting. We went twice to pick out the different design elements and then to try it on once the setting was cast but before polish or any stones were set into it. I know that they’re now finished and in the house somewhere but the final product and proposal will be a surprise! My boyfriend really didn’t want to give that part of it up but was admittedly clueless when it came to picking something out. 

Post # 25
3576 posts
Sugar bee

My Fiance and i had kinda talked about it.  I looked at some rings on my own and knew what i wanted. We walked into a jewelry store and found it. He purchased the ring for me and later proposed.  Thats the short version of how it went down.

Post # 26
135 posts
Blushing bee

My SO and I went shopping for my ring together! We are both picky and wanted it to be perfect!! So we picked a setting and he made the final decision for how many carats on the diamond. It was great! We then planned together our proposal. Wouldn’t have it any other way!

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

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vdvjenna:  I picked my center stone and setting out. We both like RB center stones, so that’s what we’re getting. I was really picky about the cut, so I wanted to pick the stone myself to be sure it had the dimensions I wanted. As for the setting, we went to a jewelry store in my hometown together just to look, and I ended up falling in love with a setting there, so that was easy.

As far as I know, the ring is in the process of being made. I have no clue when he is actually going to receive it or when he is going to propose, but hopefully very soon!

Post # 28
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Fiance brought up the ring to me because he knows how picky I am! He asked me to pin some rings on Pinterest so I did! I narrowed it down to about 5 rings I liked and had my heart set on one ring. He insisted that we go to the jewelers where they carried these rings so I could try them on and view them in person. At first I was hesitant because I always thought the ring should be a “surprise” but I went anyway. The first ring I tried on was one that I thought was “okay” and wanted to just try it on for fun. Well it was the Verragio that I fell in love with when I slipped it on to my finger. It was so beautiful and unique, everything I wanted in an engagement ring! We went and tried on the ring that I had previously thought was the winner and it was awful! I am so glad that we went together and looked. I chose my top three rings and let him pick. When he was about to open the box I knew that it was going to be my dream ring because he could tell by my reaction that I absoutely loved it! 🙂 I was so happy that I got to have input in choosing my ring and a small bit of the surprise element be gone rather than wearing a ring on my finger for the rest of my life that I don’t really like. Most men want their girlfriends to help them pick the ring because they are clueless!

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Post # 29
7983 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

He asked me to marry him without a ring. Shortly after that, we went to look at rings. After he knew what I wanted, he purchased the ring (without my knowledge) and surprised me with it.

Post # 30
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We went shopping together to find out what we liked, then we bought the stone loose and I found a setting through an etsy seller and bought that a week or two later. He intercepted all the packages and took them to the jewelers to get it set. So the first time Im going to see my ring is when he proposes. 


…which should be anyday now…. Im going crazy over here. 

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