(Closed) Proposal and choosing your own ring

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Fiance and I agreed we wanted to get married. We went together and picked out a ring. Then I never saw it again until he proposed (the store called him when it came in, he went and picked it up and decided when and where to propose). 

Post # 32
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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vdvjenna:  I think if you’ve talked about getting married then its not odd at all!

the BF and I have talked extensivly about getting married and what ring I want and decided to go the custom route. SO i’m finalizing what I want it to look like and then he will have it made and still surprise me with the proposal.

People keep commenting that its not going to be a surprise and i’m like …UUHM YES IT IS! because I have no clue how he will propose!!! DUH


And the bonus is I will love my ring and he will be confident that I love it too!

Post # 33
69 posts
Worker bee

My boyfriend and I picked out the ring together ๐Ÿ™‚ I knew what I liked and didn’t like to we went to a local store and picked a ring.  Over 9 months later (I know he kept me waiting) haha, he took me to Paris a proposed!!  Happiest girl ever!!

Post # 34
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

We talked about getting married for a month or so then Fiance asked my parents in front of me if he could marry me. That’s the only proposal I had so far lol We then went to try on rings together and agreed on a certain diamond shape and setting. I did all the rsearch and he just paid for it. We both love the ring I picked!! We wanted Tiffany 6 prong but the width of the ring is too big for my finger. So we went with Tacori. Here are some pictures. 4.25 finger size. I love the side detail!! There is not much of a surprise at all tho..

Post # 35
249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My Fiance actually took me to a jewelry shop after I got off work. We had already talked about our future plans and we knew we wanted to get married. Even though we talked about it we never established a timeline or weren’t too detailed with the plans. When we went to look at wedding rings I gave him a feel of what I wanted, I tried the rings on and everything but we got out the store feeling as if we both had gone just to look, you know, nothing too serious. One month later he proposed and it was on Valentines day, so you would think I would definitely see it coming but I was really clueless about everything. I think you will still be surprised because even if you see it coming, you never know how it’s going to be, or the exact day and place. Don’t worry, I’m sure it’ll still be special! 

I would let him know your thoughts about the ring styles you like or don’t like, I’m sure he’ll be picking up on everything you say about rings. I’m sure he doesn’t want to be clueless about it, and he wants to pick something that you’ll like. 

Post # 36
109 posts
Blushing bee

Me and DH hadn’t even discussed marriage. I had a promise ring that he gave me after being together 10 months. After 3 years together he brought me to a jewellery store and basically told me to pick out an engagement ring. I was stunned. Did not see it coming. Marriage was so far off in my mind; we were living together and life was good. Mind you, I was VERY excited to be able and pick out my own engagement ring. It was really sweet and what a nice surprise. Did I get the ring after I picked it out? No. He wanted to formally propose when he was ready. He didn’t buy the ring in front of me either. He did it a few days later, maybe it was even the next day. He bought it in early September and proposed on Sept 23rd, 2012. The time in between I was wondering where he hid the ring. Come to find out, he bought it and kept it at the jewellery store’s safe til he was ready to propose. The proposal was a surprise but I was expecting it. The best surprise was when he brought me to the jewellery store to pick out my ring. I was like a kid in a candy store ๐Ÿ™‚ <br />Good luck to you and your boyfriend. Hopefully you will soon call him fiance ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 37
984 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

For us it happened similarly to

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onthefritz:  we had a custom ring designed. We went to look at a few stores but I had my heart set on an antique beauty I had found on etsy. One of the jewelers we stopped at (while out of town) happened to work with a custom jeweler. We got a quote, and when he wanted to, he got it made. He ended up getting the ring way sooner than he was going to propose, as the jeweler offered a discount for doing it then, so he just held onto it until he was ready to propose! ๐Ÿ™‚


It is the perfect ring and I couldn’t be happier with how it all worked out!


Post # 38
5356 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

We designed my ring and he would’ve proposed with it, had it been completed when it was suppose to have been. Instead he proposed with a stand in and I wore it for 2 months until my ring was finished. 

Post # 39
241 posts
Helper bee

DH and I talked about getting engaged a lot before it happened. I had a pretty furm idea about what I wanted (I am picky!). DH couldn’t afford it at the time , so we got a morganite ring that I wore for a year before getting the “forever ring”! I now have my final ring, it was worth the wait. I’m glad we talked about it before hand and I got what I wanted eventually! I always feel bad for the bees who don’t get their dream ring. 

Post # 40
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: dont know

We went ring shopping to look at ideas. I saw one I wanted and they were having a huge sale event so he started making payments, paid it off ages ago, and has yet to propose so I don’t know how that parts works yet.

Post # 41
4250 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

My DH proposed with a ring.  He actually made me a twist tie ring to propose with.  <3  And then we designed a ring together, and picked out  a diamond together.  And then he handled it all until it was done.  Once it was done he planned a fun afternoon to give it to me, and we went out to our fav restaurant.  )

Post # 42
1443 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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vdvjenna:  My DH proposed with a stand-in ring, and it was perfect ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 43
6362 posts
Bee Keeper

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vdvjenna:  Our was a very fast time line.  We talked marriage right after our 1 year anniversary (like the actual when we’re getting married) [we already knew we were getting married after we first started dating] and we picked out a ring in the beginning of April.  It arrived April 15th, 5 agonizing days later he proposed on Easter, April 20th.

We never talked rings until after our one year, just wasn’t something that came up until he mentioned “well diamonds are a girl’s best friend” and I was like “not this girls” and then we went on a google search of a ring I would like.  We search together, and found the ring I wanted.  Paid for it, had it made, shipped.  I knew the proposal was coming.  I just didn’t know when.  I love my husband, he’s great, but he’s not the most romantic, so when he proposed on Easter I was so thrown off, but so happy (he asked me to be his girlfriend on Easter the previous year).

The proposal itself was super laidback and unexpected.  The ring was still in the drawer when he proposed, but even knowing what the ring looked like I was still super excited and overjoyed.

Post # 44
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

We went ring shopping together so he would know what style, setting, and size looked good and what I liked. We got to talk about our priorities, like some people really care about clarity but not me I wanted size and sparklyness so he invested more on those attributes (excellent cut and good carat size).

He bought the ring without me and surprised me with a great proposal! So basically everything was a surprise other than the actual ring inside the box which is exactly how I wanted it.

Post # 45
2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016


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for all you ladies who picked out your own ring, how did you go abouts this? We made plans to look at rings after Brunch one day.

Was your proposal a suprise and then he asked you to pick out a ring? I was very suprised when he proposed, I showed him my favorite style of ring before he proposed.

Did he have a filler ring or did he propose without a ring? He proposed with THE ring.

Did you guys talk about getting married and just go buy a ring with no proposal? We talked about marriage and asked one another TONS of questions, he proposed with a ring.

Do you guys think I should try and show him the ring I want well before he plans on asking so that theres time to make it a suprise still? I think you should 1st bring up the subject of marriage to guage where he is regarding marriage…

The ring I really would like is on Adiamor’s website, how did you guys go abouts deciding to look at rings? We made plans after Brunch one day to look at rings.

Did he ask you one day what you would like or was it something you ladies brought up? He brought it up…one day he asked me my opinion on certain rings and he started showing me his favorites online.

Would it be strange or tacky if I just brought it up one day? Only if you haven’t discussed marriage first.

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