(Closed) Proposal at a Wedding…..Thoughts?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is a proposal at a wedding inappropriate?
    YES!! How rude!! : (428 votes)
    90 %
    Meh. It's aightt. : (33 votes)
    7 %
    What the heck are you talking about, that's great!! : (16 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 47
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @mzjodizzle:  True, definitely there are 364 other days in the year, but not a single one where everyone is already all in one place, in happy spirits and full of love.

    One of my close friends is so excited for my wedding because, as she puts it, “we get to see everyone all dressed up and no one had to die!” which is a reference to how our social circle only gets huge turnouts for parties when it’s a funeral.  It’s very sad but it’s true.  I could not possibly deny someone I loved the chance to share their own special moment with our loved ones all at once!

    Post # 48
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2002

    I don’t see what the big deal is. It’s only a few minutes of attention for the newly engaged couple. I would be excited for friends of mine to get engaged, whether it be at my wedding, baby shower, etc… 

    Post # 49
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2002

    Ok…just asked hubby this and he said he thought it was rude bc it takes away from the couple getting married. I didn’t think he would care either way. Interesting… 🙂

    Post # 51
    11165 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @fishbone:  Well you are a better person than I. Totally.


    I agree with @mzjodizzle The day is about love of course but the love between my Darling Husband and I. We are constantly reminded on WB that you don’t get a year, month, week but I’ll be damned if someone takes away the day too.

    My SIL announced her second pregnancy a week before our wedding…totally cool with it. Had she waited until the wedding day I would have been less than pleased. Call me selfish but I worked really hard to for our day and I want it to be OUR day.

    Post # 52
    460 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Next to RSVPing and then not attending, I think this is just about the rudest thing a guest can do. I would be livid if someone made a big announcement at our wedding. It’s not the time or the place.

    Post # 54
    1278 posts
    Bumble bee

    My trainwreck of a cousin just got engaged at a wedding reception last month.  I wasn’t at this wedding, but when i found that out, my entire family thought it was pretty rude.

    But I’ll be surprised if the wedding actually happens, they are really young and break up every couple of months for really stupid reasons and blast their drama all over facebook.

    Post # 55
    447 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    In theory I’d be pissed off, but in the moment I would be so excited.  Plus, then your wedding becomes a part of their engagement and wedding, which is pretty cool.

    My best friend got engaged like six hours before my engagement party.  I allowed myself 30 minutes to be pissed off (we have all of the same friends… she lives out of town, so her fiance planned it that way), and then moved on – what else can you do?  In the end it was fine.

    Post # 56
    1031 posts
    Bumble bee

    I have a small incling that this may happen at my wedding. Either my sister’s So or FSIL’s so will propose.

    Honestly, they dang well better not. I will go all queen-of-hearts- on someone’s ass and heads WILL roll.

    Post # 58
    1900 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would love it!!  I hate being the centre of attention, so anything that’d take the spotlight off me for a few minutes would be very welcome. I’d prefer to know about it beforehand though, and would ask that they do it during a quiet point in the celebration (e.g. not during the ceremony, first dance, speeches, cake cutting, etc.).
    Not only would it be great for taking spotlight off me, but imagine how happy that would make the entire day – for us and for everyone else?? Not only do we get married, but our friends/family get engaged too!

    Having said that, though, there are some people in my family that are real “attention grabbers,” so I probably wouldn’t be as thrilled if they got engaged at my wedding, I’d still be happy for them, but I know that some of them just can’t stand the thought of other people getting more attention than them.

    Post # 59
    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Yeah I think it’s super rude unles it’s given the OK by bride and groom. That being said though, I have a friend coming to my wedding who is very close to getting engaged to his Girlfriend. We are having a Destination Wedding, and (I hope) the setting will be super romantic. I (not so) secrectly hope they get engaged on the wedding trip. So exciting!

    Post # 61
    5983 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    thats a big NO NO. I would totally freak

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