Post # 1
SO and I have talked about next steps, are absolutely agreed on how we see our future together, and are both totally sure we want to get married. The only question is when? I figured we were on a timeline of sometime in the next year, and was feeling excited but totally fine with that timeline. I’ve looked at rings, and felt totally calm and looking forward to the future.
But over the Thanksgiving weekend we were laying in bed one night when, out of the blue, he said “I want to get engaged.” This wasn’t a proposal, but I suddenly got really anxious about the whole thing. Also, what I assumed was a timeline of a year looks more like a timeline of a couple of months.
Again, I’m not questioning whether we should get married, but the action of “getting engaged” suddenly gave me butterflies. It makes sense, logistically, to do it soon, and until that moment I was totally zen about the whole thing. Now I’m nervous, but I’m not sure why! It isn’t about committing permanently, or anything that would happen, but there was an unexpected moment I didn’t expect.
Did anyone else feel this way?
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
I guess you got the butterflies in your stomach because he may have moved up the timeline? Has he asked you to show him pictures of the rings you looked at/liked?
My situation is a little similar. Currently, SO is ready to propose in December (next month – squeeee!). In September, he told me he planned to propose within 6 months. 3 months later, I think because he has the nitty gritty sorted out (he told me the ring wil fit my finger when he proposes, hatched a plan etc.) there is no reason to wait till February 2017.
Post # 3
I wasn’t nervous until the day of. I kinda suspected it would happen that night for various reasons. I had butterflies and my tummy was all gurgly leading up to the evening.
Then, as the night progressed, I’d convinced myself that it wouldn’t happen that night and relaxed. So when he did pop the question, I was like “what?!? What is happening?!?” 😂
Post # 4
Hooray for you! But yes, SO and I have long talked about marriage and our timeline was always next year for engagement. But suddenly all the signs are thercoming that it is around the corner–he became very frugal, started controlling the planning of things, and planned a secret week long trip in January for us. I have no idea where we are going or for what. He said just be ready to go and he will pack for me and take care of everything!
I have not been able to sleep since finding that out! My mind is racing over so many different scenarios lol. I’m afraid I’m going to ruin it some how by being so on edge
congrats for you though!
Post # 5
I’m not engaged but I’d been with my boyfriend for almost two years and we were living about 2 hours from each other so he’d been looking for something closer to me and we’d discussed him moving here and living together etc. I was all for it, knowing he was the person I wanted to be with and was excited at the prospect.
And then he got a job and I got really anxious about it. What if he moved in and we couldn’t stand living together. What if moving in ruined the relationship. Were we ready? Was I ready to share my home? What about our kids? Would they be ok with it? What if we broke up, the kids would be so upset? and so on…….
He was very good about it and said he’d take the job but rent a place if I wasn’t ready but I knew that was a silly thing to do and a waste of money so we decided to have him stay for a month and revisit it and if all was well, we’d revisit it in six months and so on. After the first couple of months we knew it would be fine.
I totally expect to be anxious about getting engaged and again about getting married. It’s just who I am. I worry, I wonder, I question. I’ve never been the type to be 100% sure about anything and I’m risk averse so I know I’ll worry about marrying someone “just in case” but I’ve also learned that sometimes you have to just jump in with both feet and hope for the best!
Post # 6
I am starting to get a little nervous too because I know it’s coming soon. We’ve spoken about it for years and now that it’s around the corner I’m so anxious and nervous!!! I never imagined I’d feel this way. Congrats!
Post # 7
I’m pretty sure my SO is going to propose this week. I’m completely freaking out. I’m not sure why. We looked at rings together, my family and his family both sent him some diamonds to make a ring for me, we’ve been discussing our wedding and what our future will look like for ages….but suddenly we’re the week of his asking and I am LOSING it. I think this is normal.