Proposal…. Did you know it was coming?! POLL :)

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: I knew nothing, it was a complete surprise
    We had discussed marriage, but nothing about rings or timing : (11 votes)
    19 %
    We had discussed the ring, but the timing/location was a surprise : (30 votes)
    52 %
    We planned the whole thing together, and I knew everything : (9 votes)
    16 %
    Other : (8 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 2
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    We had discussed marriage and knew we would get married eventually (we have been together yonks) however I thought it would be happening in more like 5 years time.  

    He completely surprised me with both the proposal and ring. We never discussed rings ever and to be honest I didn’t even really think about them before he gave me mine.  

    How he picked the most perfect ring just made the whole thing even more special as I was so utterly shocked and could not have chosen a more ‘me’ ring if I tried!

    To each their own, however I don’t think I will ever be able to replicate the feeling I had when he went down on one knee and surprised me.  I think personally that anticipating it or knowing it would have lessened the impact a little bit.  However I have plenty of friends who were much more aware that their proposals were coming.  I don’t think chosing or input on the ring is very common here in the UK though unless its a family one?

    Post # 3
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    3310 posts
    Sugar bee

    We had a rough timeline for marriage. He knew I was fussy with jewelry. I kind of knew a proposal would be coming but I was surprised when it happened, it was the last thing on my mind that day. I designed my own ring a few weeks after the proposal 😀

    Post # 4
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    We had discussed NOTHING! We had been together for 6 years so he knew I wanted to get married eventually but the one time I mentioned something wedding related he got upset so I never mentioned it again. He took me on a trip to Paris and popped the ring after our first day of exploring the city and seeing the Eiffel Tower. It was a $10 ring from amazon, and he let me pick whichever ring I wanted when we got home!

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I didn’t know it was coming but I don’t think he did either!

    We’d discussed getting engaged but my husband was reluctant to talk about timelines but we’d discussed rings. I’d told him that the timeline was until I got fed up and proposed to him.

    We went away for the weekend and Darling Husband said “we can buy a ring if you want” but he’d propose later. I told him if we bought a ring, we were engaged and so we only bought a ring if he was happy to be engaged. He was, we bought a ring, told our parents, then that evening he got down on one knee with a makeshift ring (mine was being resized).

    I asked him later if he planned on buying a ring that weekend and getting engaged. He said he hadn’t but it felt right so he mentioned the ring but didn’t expect me to turn it to a proposal.

    Post # 6
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    164 posts
    Blushing bee

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    MissMul :  We had discussed marriage and we were living together. I pretty much knew within a year I would most likely be engaged. I did not the exact date the was going to propose and it was a surprise.

    Post # 7
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    1405 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    We’ve discussed marriage, and engagement very throroughly and I spent a lot of time researching rings before giving him a list of ones I liked so he had a good idea of what I wanted. The proposal itself is still going to be a surprise, so I don’t know the when or where of that yet!

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    He told one of his cars to buy my ring so I knew it was coming but I didn’t know the specific timing. 

    Post # 9
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    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

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    MissMul :  I chose my ring, and we split the cost 50/50, but then he went and picked it up and surprised me with a proposal at my parents’ house. I knew it was coming but I didn’t know the exact timing or any other details. 

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    we discussed marriage, but Darling Husband still wanted to do the big proposal.  the diamond was my grandmother’s that Darling Husband was having reset and there was a delay in the ring (the jeweler’s wife passed away).  anyway, i knew it was coming, but Darling Husband asked me if I wanted to wait or be proposed to without a ring.  i said without ring. i knew it was going to be one of 2 weekends.  when it didn’t happen the first, it happened the next.

    though i had given pictures to Darling Husband about what i would like, i didn’t know exactly what the ring would look like.

    and i didn’t know how the execution of proposal would be. 

    Post # 11
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    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    My Darling Husband had mentioned a couple of times that he knew I was “the one” very early on in our relationship. I told him we should wait and see, and that I would not be comfortable getting engaged to anyone until we had been together for at least 18 months. Lo and behold on our 18th month anniversary (didn’t realize it was even the date at that time), he proposed to me. It was a complete surprise. It was a Sunday morning and I was in the middle of scrubbing toilets and cleaning house when I walked into the kitchen to get some cleaner. He was leaning against the sink looking like he was going to throw up and suddenly proposed. I was so shocked that I didn’t even think to say YES until he said, “Well, will you?” Haha! We had never looked at rings or anything. He had his mother’s ring (who passed away a couple of years before we met) re-set in a style he knew I preferred. But he had asked my parents a few months prior.

    Post # 13
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    1191 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I knew it was coming. We had talked about it, I showed him the ring I wanted.  I told him he had until the end of 2016.  I thought it was going to be Christmas Eve with our families but he threw me off and did it 12.23. Even though I knew it was coming I was still surprised and shocked because I had waited so long I NEVER thought it was going to happen LOL

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee

    It hasn’t happened yet but I know it’ll happen before this year is over. We’ve openly discussed marriage, rings, and decided that we’ll get married in 2018. He says it’s happening in December but I’m willing to bet it’ll be earlier than that because he would never actually tell me the month. He just wants me to think I know so it is a surprise when he actually does ask. 

    Post # 15
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    185 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I didn’t see the ring before he proposed, but he did ask me to send him pictures of rings that I liked, so that he knew what to get when the time came. This was maybe in the beginning of the year. I also showed him a ring that I had already had, like a cheap pretty blue ring and I said this fits me perfectly, so he had an idea for sizing. Then we didn’t talk about it really for months.  I did not know when he was going to propose but I knew it would happen at some point soon (within the year or so I’d say) because we had discussed it and I knew that we were both on the same page. We went on a week vacation to Europe to two countries in September. I didn’t think about it at all during the first country, just enjoyed the vacation! He did it at the second country and I had no idea! We had gotten off the plane, dropped off our bags at the hotel and walked around the town to do some exploring. He stepped away from me for a few minutes and then called me over to him, then did it! so yes, I knew it was coming at some point that year, but had no clue when or where. He later told me that he had purchased the ring and picked it up from the jeweler a few days before the vacation because he knew that he wanted to do it at the second country.

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