(Closed) Proposal during a LDR meetup… Yay or Nay?

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011 - OMOS Church ceremony/Sunnehanna Country Club reception

Mr. Snow Cone proposed while we were still doing our LDR thing.  Granted, we only had about 2 months left before we would be in the same city, so it’s not an exact parallel to your situation.  It’s hard to put into words, but there’s this sense of calm, happiness, and peace that descends upon you after a proposal.  Sure, there are minor stressors like a loud neighbor, traffic, bad weather, etc.  But what’s good in life seems better and what’s bad in life seems not that bad.  I think that your gf would not have any large problem with your proposing while still in a LDR.  Think of it this way: if you propose while LD, then she has such an overwhelmingly awesome reason to be excited for your return.  If you don’t propose and wait, she has to wait for that much longer before knowing EXACTLY how you feel about her and what you expect your future together to be.  That’s just my two-cents on the matter.  It sounds like you have some really great ideas bouncing around your noggin, my friend!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

definitely makes it easy because she won’t doubt your commitment to her.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well, I am sitting here hoping this is what is going to happen between me and my boyfriend in September. I think that it would really show how committed you are to the relationship, and that you love her so much. I think she would love it, I know I would.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My Fiance proposed on a break, he left again 3 days after and while it sucked he left and we didn’t get to be engaged together in the same place and celebrate together it in no way was worse than any other proposal.  As others said it made the LDR easier in some ways because you could see the light at the end of the tunnel.  I think it sounds like a very romantic proposal!  I love the idea and I say go for it!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my FH proposed to me about 10 months into our LDR (we’d been dating for 3 years) and we have another year or 2 until we’ll be together again (getting married and continuing being long distance). needless to say, i did say yes – completely surprised! i don’t think there’s been much of a difference. guys generally don’t give much input in the planning so while it’s harder to get his perspective when he doesn’t know what half the things i’m talking about are, it’s not bad at all!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think your girlfriend will truly appreciate the commitment you are making to her. This doesn’t change whether you are in a LDR or not. And most importantly, you have a timeframe. I feel is very important and it gives the two of you a goal to be looking forward to!

I am in a LDR, too, and most likely the proposal will happen during his next visit. We’re currently looking at another year before we can be together. I am on the one hand really calm about this and thankful that I can see/plan ahead, on the other hand I think there would be more of a surprise element if visits weren’t so far and few in between.

Proposals come in all shapes and sizes, and your thought of proposing in a very romantic & historic city is definitely sweet! There are sooo many locations to choose from in either city!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Not seeing you for such a long time will certainly be hard. Not seeing your partner for extended periods of time is never easy. But I will agree with the other posters that doing the proposal beore you leave is a great idea because she’ll be left knowing for a fact you have no doubts about your future and want to really start your lives together once you return. It sounds like it will be an amazing proposal. Good luck! 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My fiance and I are in a LDR for the duration of our engagement.  He proposed on a weekend visit and it was awesome.  I say go for it and propose.  Your ideas sound romantic and sweet.

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