(Closed) Proposal gone wrong…

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
3967 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Zera88:  Personally, I would not stay on the other side of the world with a man who cheated and lied. Proposals don’t make problems disappear. You deserve better.  It isn’t about the proposal not being good enough.

Post # 4
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

wow he proposed because he cheated and did not want you to leave him?!? and you said yes?  You should have left right then and there…… GO NOW! RUN FOR THE HILLS!  This is not about the proposal this is about the person, I would leave right now if I were you!  You can do so much better 

Post # 6
7556 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m not married, but I’m guessing that being married takes more work than planning a proposal. Do you really want to be with someone who can’t bother to plan one special day/night for you? Why are you selling yourself so short? 

Post # 7
3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

honey, you deserve so much better than this.

Post # 8
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

no man, including this one, will ever respect you if you cannot respect yourself. you should leave and get self therapy so that you start loving yourself, because right now, you clearly don’t if you keep letting him to this type of stuff to you. 

Post # 9
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry, homeboys balls would be on my wall if he cheated then proposed. Leave him!!

Post # 10
1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This is crazy. The least wrong thing in this post is the proposal. Find someone who deserves you!

Post # 11
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It was basically a last resort after I had found photographic evidence that he had kinda cheated on me….….includes lies concerning drug use, lies concerning the living arrangement, two housemates who wanted me out and worked hard to get me out, and him literally breaking my knee in a skiing/snowboarding accident


i tried to type my thoughts out carefully a number of time but i keep coming back to holy shit balls!

Post # 12
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

“kinda cheated on me” ? Sooo, did he cheat or not?

“him literally breaking my knee” Are you saying he is to blame for your broken knee when it was an accident?

I think you already know he is not the one for you – nobody should deal with such things – I am not saying happy relationships don’t have their ups and downs but if all you can think of are negative things it would be very unwise to continue with a relationship like this…

Let go, take your time healing yourself and allow yourself to be truly happy!

Post # 13
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree.  It sounds like you already know he isn’t the one.  This relationship isn’t healthy, and you deserve soooooo much more.  Pack your bags and get outta there!  You’ll be so much happier in the long run.

Post # 14
4660 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@love108:  Proposals don’t make problems disappear. You deserve better. << this!

@Zera88:  Should I just let it go and move on?  Yes.  Yes you should.  But I think you already knew that.  Be strong 🙂

Post # 15
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I know you’re asking if you should let the “proposal” go and move on, but this just sounds like so much more than that. I’m not you, so I can’t say what you should or shouldn’t do, but this doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship from an outsider’s perspective. I know sometimes love, or what you think is love, can cause you to stay with someone when deep, deep down, you know you shouldn’t. I stayed with my daughter’s father because I thought he was the only person who would ever “love” me, since I had a child. After lots of drug abuse, and finally physical abuse, I ended it. It was hard, especially since I felt like I was soley responsible for breaking up our “family”, but it was what was best for me [and her too, really]. Then I started dating my now SO, and things dramatically improved in my life. It turns out I was silly to believe that having a baby would make me unlovable.

I feel that you should truly take a step back and evaluate your relationship with him. A proposal doesn’t have to be flowery or super romantic, as long as you know in your hearts that the two of you are meant to be together and can work through life’s obstacles with each other’s help. Also, some advice from my mom is, if you had a daughter your age, and she told you these things, what would you tell her to do? If you wouldn’t want her in this situation, and she seemed truly unhappy, what would you tell her?

As far as your intended topic, I don’t think you should let “the proposal” go and move on because that should be a fun part of your relationship, not something that causes heartbreak and arguements. I wish you all the strength to get through this tough time.

Post # 16
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Run!! Far far away right NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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