(Closed) Proposal in Paris or at local beach?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

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jnuz:  I think you need to consider your girlfriend and her personal style.

For instance, my fiance proposed at my family cabin while we were sitting around the fire. That was a perfect proposal for me. I would hate a stereotypical proposal in Paris, but that’s just ME.

So think about what you think she would like and do that!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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jnuz:  Haha so true, I’m afraid of heights too so I can see the issue with that. I suppose it could be cheesy. Personally, if it were happening to me I would think it was amazing. And seriously, no proposal is cheesy, and if someone is more worried about how cheesy the proposal was than how happy they are to be engaged, they’ve got their priorities wrong. No matter what, you will do great! And if it’s more your style to make it unique then go for it!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

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jnuz:  you could ask the flight attendants on the plane to Paris if you could propose over the public address system? Just to add my idea into the mix:) 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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jnuz:  Both sound beautiful and I promise that no matter which idea you go with, it will be one of the most memorable moments of both your lives! Just enjoy the process and remember the bit where you agree to spend your lives together is the most important part!

My Fiance proposed to me at home in our loungroom with fairy lights and candles. It was low-key, personal and the most beautifully, romantic and memorable moment of my life!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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jnuz:  Doing it on your birthday is a really cool idea- you can work it in by saying something like how the best birthday gift she could ever give you is to say that she will be your wife!

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

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jnuz:  Do it in Paris.  I see so many women on these boards disappointed in their proposal.  No matter what you work out in Paris, she will have a great story to tell.

I second the PP’s recommendation to skip the Eiffel Tower and go for the Palais Garnier.  It’s gorgeous!  Propose the first night and then you can enjoy the rest of your trip in the bliss that follows an engagement.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You know when she would be least expecting it? At the airport, just before you board! I’m sure you could phone ahead and get one of the airline staff to be ready to take photos. You never know, they might even upgrade your flights! I know not everyone is like me but I dress up to fly so if it was me I’d be looking pretty, not expect it at all and then the trip to Paris would be even more amazing. BUT if she is a quiet, shy person I would not do this as for some people it is really important that the proposal is private and intimate, not in a huge crowd.

 

I will say this though, if your girlfriend is intelligent and you’ve at least talked about marriage to some extent, of COURSE she will be at least thinking about a possible proposal in Paris. But you know what? As someone not yet engaged (but close), the thought of a proposal crosses my mind all. the. time. He suggests we go out for dinner? (Proposal?!). He suggests we go for a drive (Proposal?!). He suggests almost anything (Proposal?!). I’m not saying that it’s the ONLY thing I can think about or in any way saying that it ruins outings, I’m just saying that it’s always in the back of my/her mind because I’m just as excited about it as he/you are! So the surprise element of it isn’t really THAT important, certainly try, but the romance is more important than the surprise.

 

In fact, I’ve read some engagement stories lately where the guy had convinced her so well that the ring wasn’t ready that as he started to propose later that day she wasn’t even really paying attention because she was so sure it wouldn’t happen that day. It wasn’t until he got down on one knee that she realised! You want her to at least be paying attention and not miss half of your proposal. I can guarantee you this, as long as you put THOUGHT into your proposal, she will love it, I promise. Just think about her and you and your relationship and what you both like. I’m not a beach person so if my boyfriend proposed on a beach I would find it very odd, but if you are beach people then it would be lovely!

Here are some ideas to think about though:

Does she like having painted nails? Perhaps suggest she go and get them done/have a friend take her the day of or day before you propose so that they look really nice in the photos she’ll no doubt take of her ring.

Is she a photo/video person? Do photos mean a lot to her? Be sure to somehow capture the event.

Does she like love letters? Be sure to write one for her of all your thoughts and feelings on the day of proposing, I’m sure that she would love and cherish it forever. In fact you should write down how you felt during the ring design process and how it feels to have it in your hands now. All the things you would normally tell her about in person if this weren’t met to be a surprise. I’m sure she’d love to know all about the process.

Is she very family orientated? Could you organise a family meet up soon after proposing to go and announce and news and celebrate? Or possibly even involve her family in the actual proposal?

Is she very excited to start wedding planning? Perhaps buy her her first few wedding magazines and give them to her after you propose. It would be a lovely touch to really add to her excitement.

Does she love stuffed toys? Perhaps buy her one that she will forever cherish as her proposal bear/elephant/zebra etc

Hopefully this gets the ideas flowing.

Good luck and please do let us know how it goes.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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jnuz:  I really love the amount if thought that you are putting into this! Whatever you end up deciding on I’m sure she is going to love.

Just some thoughts I had:

How sure are you that the ring will fit? Because it would suck not being able to wear it around Paris for fear of losing it because it was too big. Although getting it resized in Paris would be very romantic. If you decide that she wouldn’t like a proposal in public, can you get the heart pizza made as take away and propose at home? That would solve the tired issue. Although you’ll modt likely be too excited to sleep well anyway. Do you think it would be important to you or her to tell people in person or would you be happy with phone calls? Because if she would want to tell people in person then you would have to wait until you got back to say anything to anyone. BUT if you guys are quiet people who don’t always like to share news straight away, having this amazing secret just between the two of you (that you are engaged) of the whole trip could be really romantic and fun. 

In the end though I may be over thinking this. Too much time on my hands it seems. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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jnuz:  My Fiance proposed on his birthday, and said that was what he wanted for his bday.  I thought it was super sweet!

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

jnuz:  I think that if a good date works in easily then it shows wonderful thought to propose on a special date, especially your “our day” which I love! However, you don’t want to ignore other great opportunities because you are super set on that date.

I would certainly advise you to propose before Paris. She is most likely at least hoping that it will happen in Paris and if you wait until afterwards she might not be able to contain her disappointment in it not happening. You don’t want to create misery if you can avoid it.

As for showing it off, it’s mostly a question of whether she’ll be able to wait to show it off or if she’ll be busting to. If you think she’ll be busting to then I would propose a good week before Paris, enjoy an amazing week celebrating with friends and family and then whisk her off to Paris to enjoy the city of love, still aglow with engagement and not yet having to endure all of the annoying questions which come the second after the ring is on her finger (when is it? do you think you’ll get married in a church? can I come? will it be a summer wedding? etc etc etc). 

Plus, this way it’s sooner and the ring won’t be burning a hole in your pocket for quiet as long.

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