(Closed) Proposal Nearing….and Im very nervous

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Haha. Well. I got really nervous every time another month anniversary passed. And it just NEVER seemed  to happen. I know why it took him longer than he had originally planned. (my grandmother had a stroke and the later passed and he didn’t want to be, as he said it, “insensitive to the situation”)

But when he proposed it was a very calm and relaxed situation so there was no dropping of the ring or passing out!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Xanax and a glass of wine. hahaha! Just kidding.. kind of.

I have anxiety too and I have a prescription although I don’t have to use it very often.

The thing that helps me most is to just BREATHE. Really concentrate on your breath. Make it the focus of your mind. Make it ALL you think about. Force all other thoughts out and try to relax. Just concentrate on your stomach rising and falling. It always helps me.

But you have to get in the mindset to do it and remember — all the freaking out is in your head so if you can control your thoughts and concentrate on relaxing it will pass quickly!

GOOD LUCK!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth!!!!

Just breathe…. you’ll be more in control than you anticipate….

the moment will be amazing and you’ll be on such a great high from

the proposal you wont need any xanax!

Post # 9
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Haha–I don’t know why but I got nervous just reading this!

The one time I thought my Boyfriend or Best Friend was going to propose (don’t know why I did–I was way wrong!) I got REALLY nervous. I didn’t even have a day that I thought he was going to propose or anything I just got nervous/butterflies just thinking about it!

I take deep breaths when I’m nervous about something (like turbulance!), but if you’re trying to calm yourself ahead of time maybe meditation will help. Picture yourself being excited but NOT nervous when he proposes. 

Good luck! And if you do faint it’ll make a heck of a story! 

Post # 10
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

My SO’s sister just got engaged yesterday and she said she felt very sick to the stomach when it happened! She was okay though. πŸ™‚

Congrats on the impending engagement!

Post # 13
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402 posts
Helper bee

My husband completely surprised me with the proposal, even though I knew he had the ring. I honestly thought it would be MONTHS down the line. I also tend to get nervous and nauseous, especially when I get caught off-guard like that, so I sympathize with you. If it’s any consolation, the nausea I might have felt in any other surprise circumstance (being called on by a professor, a surprise party, etc) was completely clouded by joy when he got down on one knee. To be honest, I was so elated that I don’t even fully remember the words of his proposal (my memory of it is a mish-mash of “love you more every day…spend my life with you…make me so happy…”)

The best advice I can give you is something my mother calls “square breathing”, which has rescued me (and my most recent meals) so many times. If you find yourself in a situation where you’re suspecting he might pop the question, try to relax and do the following: Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold it for 4 seconds, breathe out for 4 seconds, wait for 4 seconds, and repeat as long as you need to. It always calms me down and I hope it might do the same for you. Good luck!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Ok – if you think it’ll be during a dinner out, get something clear and fizzy to drink – soda water, mineral water, clear lemon-lime drinks, tonic water – this can help with nausea and settle your stomach.  Eat light and simple – no spicy curry/enchiladas/sushi rolls!  If your stomach can handle alchohol, something simple (no tequila :P) might help with your nerves, but it can also cause excess acid, so be sparing.

Just remember this – you only have ONE line to remember, “Yes!”  Let him put the ring on you if you’re worried about dropping it.  Holding out your hand should be simple enough for him to read.  (PS, in case he’s not able to propose that night – don’t hold out your hand unless you actually see a ring πŸ˜› )

He’s got the hard part, what with no stunt double to do the one-knee bend (very dangerous) and he has more to remember to say, even if he keeps it simple, it’s 3 more words than you have to worry about.

Do some yoga, it’ll relax you – if you don’t have any classes nearby or DVD, just look on youtube.  Or go for a walk/jog and get out all that restless energy πŸ™‚

I don’t think you need to worry so much, if you can help it.  He’s got the hard part in this – try to make it easy on him πŸ™‚  Try to sit back and enjoy it, kinda like watching a kid sister in a school play – you can be nervous, but you’re not the one with the big responsibility.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My boyfriend already told me he’s going to propose on the 13th when we go on a small trip one state over for dinner and site seeing… I’m nervous too even though I know it’s coming, I’m super scared he’s gonna do it in the restaurant and I don’t want 200 strangers starring at me for an hour… If I faint I’m sure it’s gonna be a huge scene but it is a possibility. Good luck to you =) I hope you can relax enough to enjoy the moment… and I’m gonna try and have 3 or 4 drinks so I have a little buzz to relax and enjoy mine.

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