- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
hi there – so I’m new here – not yet engaged but in a serious 2 year relationship.
My boyfriend and I have been dating about two years – both in our early 30’s with good jobs – well read on.
We met shortly after he moved here from another country – he’s here on work and has a VISA. He owns a place in his home country and has a solid finanical background.
We’ve been very much in love and have done all the steps – friends, family, traveling, etc. I just took the plunge of moving in together ( i really didn’t want to before engagement but it’s gone really well) a month ago.
In any case a good friend of mine mentioned to me (I had asked her months back to fill me in with no details) about 6 weeks ago that he brought up proposal to her and that he’s totally ready and wants to do it – but that he was having issues with what kind of ring to buy etc. — since then life has gotten a bit nuts, my father is ill and it looks like his job is now shaky.
I’m having a bit of panic attack because he’s only here legally because of his job and without marriage he can’t stay I can’t go back with him – BUT – i have a feeling his new financial worries have shifted our situation.
We had plans for a elaborate NYE which he just scratched (I am about 99% sure that’s when he was going to pop the question).
What do i do? He assures me that he’ll find another job here and has started looking – but inside I’m totally dissapointed that most likely this financial worry has pushed back our engagement (he doesn’t know I have a clue).
advice please? I’m trying to not let it effect me.