Post # 1
So I have been with my boyfriend for a couple of years and he’s in the navy so I don’t get to see him as often as I would like but we have talked about getting married for a long time and now he has a ring and I know he’s planning to propose next time he has leave which will be around Christmas but the other day my bother came and showed me a ring he bought for his girlfriend and he plans to propose around the same time.. what should I do? My brother and his girlfriend moved in together about maybe 4 or 5 months after dating and have been dating just as long as my relationship, we don’t want to wait any longer and it’s hard because he has to plan everything around his leave time and my brother sees his girlfriend every day
I just don’t want either one to be ruined doing it in the same month
Post # 2
Honestly you should go ahead with your plans. Each couple can celebrate their engagement. One doesn’t negate the other.
Post # 4
ok thank you! I’ve been worrying about it a lot
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry about this at all, it will be such a special time for all of you together, as well as separately as individual couples. Christmas time is super busy for proposals (that’s when mine was last year!) so I don’t think that anyone can really call dibs on it! Congratulations in advance bee 🙂 xx
Post # 6
I don’t see how either proposal/engagement would be ruined unless there’s gonna be some deliberate sabotage going on. You’ll celebrate together!
That said, Hopefully each proposal is done during a private moment as otherwise I could see how if they both do it during Christmas dinner or under the tree during presents opening it could steal the thunder somewhat to go second or even put the person off to do it as planned if the other one beats them to it.
If you want to go further I think one option would be for you to to find out your brothers exact plans as in when/where/how he’s gonna do it and tell your boyfriend about your brother’s plans (and then you might want to indicate if you’d dream of it done that way or not as men have a funny way of thinking it’s a message to do exactly That if telling them about what another man is doing) and then your boyfriend has the option to contact him and they can even coordinate not to do it in a way that will get in the way/overshadow the other.
But just leaving it be and let them do their thing on their own might just suffice! If everyone involved are happy, generous of heart kind of people there shouldn’t be any jealousy or bad mood following Two engagements no matter how it goes down.
Post # 7
If you’re all reasonable people there shouldn’t be drama. It might even be fun!
Post # 8
thank you! Yes I already told my boyfriend my brothers plan and when he plans to do it 🙂 his leave will be up by the time my brother plans to propose too 🙂
Post # 9
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I see no problem. You guys can be happy for eachother!