(Closed) Proposal rejected as diamond was smaller than 1ct. Wow

• howdoyoudo
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: July 2015

What a shame that proposal didn’t work out. I wonder what the fallout has been.

• vally88
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: August 2016

Unless he is a tycoon of some kind she cant really reject him as careless for the size of the stone. She doesnt deserve his love…. 

• Pollywog
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: City, State

Just to play devils advocate, we have no idea what the size of the stone was or their background. Let’s say he makes $150-200k a year and a ring was very important to her. They talked at length about this and she was clear that she expected him to spen a month’s salary on the ring. Then when he proposed, it was a quarter carat. Perfectly nice, but he spends more on a night with the boys than on a ring for her to wear forever. I can see her being upset and wondering why she’s not worth a night out.

• LALaw
• 4 years ago

Pollywog:  This!

generally, yes it’s shocking to think of someone letting a ring size affect your desire to marry your SO, but we’re quick to assume that SHE is the one being unreasonable. 

I didn’t read the article, but in concept, I agree with Pollywog. Could be that he’s eating filet mignon but only allowing her to order a Big Mac, so to speak. 

But maybe not. She might just be an asshole, lol!

• ladyvictoria
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

Pollywog:  I can understand what you’re saying, but the proposal is about him asking her to be his wife, which is so incredibly special. If they both genuinely love each other, then how can the wrong ring really cause a woman to say no to spending her life with him? Especially in front of all of those poeple, and now for the world to see.

There are so many ways to resolve the ring issue – accept the proposal but discuss that the ring isn’t exactly what you expected, or learn to love it for what it represents then upgrade at a later time. But flat out saying no? That speaks volumes about the relationship in my opinion. 

• ana2017
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: January 2017

*Sigh*First world problems.. Big and small are all relative terms..  

• Butterfly6
• 4 years ago

ladyvictoria:  THIS!

• jwcw21
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: March 2016

Not unusual for chinese thou… 

• sparkles1986
• 4 years ago

You can change the size of the ring but you can’t change the size of someone’s heart…

I’d say that guy dodgd a bullet!

• theatrejulia
• 4 years ago

jwcw21:  agree, it could be a cultural difference. Projecting our values and beliefs to another culture, and not knowing the specifics of  this situation nulls any of our opinion

• peegee
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

I mean I would never say no to a proposal from the man I love but honestly if we discussed one carat and it was significantly smaller and he spent a ton of money on a flash mob instead, I cant say I wouldn’t be kind of disappointed, but then again I would never want that kind of elaborate proposal, maybe she did.