(Closed) Proposal– Surprise or Planned?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
4949 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Mine was the furthest thing from a surprise and I was more than okay with it. I’m not a huge fan of surprises. It was still an incredibly special moment.

Post # 4
1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@FutureM:  I knew he wanted to propose but other than that, everything was a complete surprise.

Post # 5
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We yalked about marriage since we started dating. I didn’t know when he was going to propose. I actually ruined his original plan!

Post # 6
1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

My preference was to just know what kind of ring I was getting. I’m going to wear it for the rest of my life, and I just want what I want. Besides he told me what he would have gotten me and I would have not liked it at all. 

I knew he was going to propose, but I never knew when, so I was pleasantly surprised when he proposed on our five year anniversary. (:

Post # 7
512 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@FutureM:  It was a total surprise for me and that was perfect for me.  

Post # 8
1087 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Surprise proposal then ring shopping together, best of both worlds 🙂

But if he had wanted the ring first, then I would have wanted to do that together first. I’d never expect my guy to be able to pick out a shoe style, a dress or even a shirt for me, and those things I’d wear a lot less frequently. He knows everything about me, but he would never pick out a ring that’d be comfortable on me, because I didn’t even know what that was until I started trying them on. 

Post # 9
1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I love surprises, and I think it was a point of pride for my Fiance to learn about diamonds and pick a ring on his own.  We had been talking about engagement and I knew he was thinking about it, but I had no idea when he would propose or what the ring would look like.  I did start to get suspicious around the time of the proposal because I can read him really well, so once it got close I was 98% sure when it was going to happen, but I still count it as a surprise.  I tried my best to convince myself that he wasn’t about to propose, haha.

I guess it’s just a personal preference.  Some people like to be surprised and give up control in that aspect, and some people like to plan absolutely everything as a team.  My Fiance and I are generally the “plan as a team” type, but when it comes to romantic things we really enjoy surprising each other.

Post # 10
2554 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Total surprise and it was aweomse! Except for one little part: he did it right as he came in the front door after being away for 3 weeks therefore he had no idea I had just come home from a party and wasn’t totally sober. Oh well! 🙂 He proposed with a dummy ring and we got my real ring the next day.

Post # 11
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

When DH and I started talking marriage, we went ring shopping once and it’s a good thing we did bc what he wanted to buy me and what I wanted…not to mention what looked good on my hand…were two very different things. The ring he ultimately picked was a perfect compromise between the two which is part of the reason I love it so much! The proposal, however was a complete surprise! He did it on a random day at my work and it was beautiful and absolutely perfect!  But I think it’s a “to each her own” kind of situation. I love surprises, but not everyone does. 

Post # 12
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013


We looked at rings the Friday before he proposed (Monday) just so he knew my taste and could start saving (at least that was my impression…). He had me convinced we were still over a year away from getting engaged. 

So even though I technically picked out my ring while with him, I HAD NO IDEA. Caught me completely off guard. 

Post # 13
2113 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@FutureM:  I wanted a surprise from him for the longest time. Like I had my “dream proposal” built up in my head and considered myself to be waiting. Then one day, he did something really sweet and it just hit me that I didn’t care anymore. I just wanted to marry him. So, I planned his dream proposal and asked him. He had no idea about any of the details other than that I was planning to ask and was getting him a ring. 

Post # 14
5184 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@FutureM:  I knew after 11 years that we were eventually going to get married but I had no idea when, where, or how he would propose. Before joining WB I had never heard of planned proposals. I’m still kind of put off by the concept but as long as it works for the couple…

Post # 16
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@FutureM:  Mine was a huge surprise! We had talked about marriage and he knew the kind of ring I like (mostly because I talk a lot, especially to him and I tell him everything… not because I was pushing for him to propose) but didn’t have a real timeline. It was easily the biggest and best surprise of my life and it was perfect!

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