Post # 1
So I’m suspicious that my boyfriend is going to propose tomorrow. He’s been overly excited about doing a beach day tomorrow (we live in south Florida) and has asked me if I still want to go maybe 2-3 times a day for a week now. He also said he wanted to do a dinner at The Melting Pot tomorrow night after the beach “just because it’s been a while since we last went” so we have reservations for that. About two weeks ago, he was asking if I had any preferences for a proposal (to which I said pretty much whatever he wants) and he specifically asked about outfits and said “like do you want to be in a dress? Do you care if you’d be in shorts or a bathing suit or pajamas?” I only remember he said that because it was so odd for him to ask if I was okay being in my bathing suit for a proposal, since it’s a very specific outfit choice. Plus, he’s not very good at secrets and let it slip about a week ago that he already told his mom that he’s going to propose, which has me thinking it’ll be sooner rather than later. Just lots of things that have me on my toes.
BUT! I could be completely wrong and just reading into it. He could just be excited about the beach, he could really just innocently want to go have a fancy dinner, the bathing suit comment could’ve just been random and unspecific. That’s entirely possible too.
So for anyone who was suspicious and it ended up not happening: was it upsetting? How did you stop yourself from getting too excited and then feeling let down that it didn’t happen? I’m trying not to think about it but it’s been nagging at me all week now!
Post # 2
Idk it sounds pretty promising to me!
I would just assume nothing will happen so you don’t get your hopes up. Regardless, it sounds like a super nice date night!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
Ugh YES! So has had my ring for 3 weeks now, I was sure he was going to do it a week after he picked it up but nope! and that was a tough one. Since then, I have been trying really hard to not read into things and just enjoying being “girlfriend/boyfriend” for this last little bit of time. I actually forgot about it most of this last week!
It sounds pretty promising, but he may have made the bathing suit comment because he had the beach on the brain. Try to stay in the moment and just enjoy your time at the beach & at your dinner. If it happens, WONDERFUL! if not, as long as you focused on having a good time with the man you love, you will have still had a really great day!
Post # 4
I live in Florida too. Going to the beach when you live in Florida is not a cause for excitement! LOL!
Sounds like you have good reasons to think something is up. Just temper your excitement and emotions because of he doesn’t propose tomorrow you don’t want to get upset about it. Best of luck.
Post # 5
I was SO annoying the week of my proposal, I was on to him and he knew it so he proposed at breakfast when he knew I wouldn’t be expecting it. If I could rewind I would tell myself to chill and pretend like nothing was going to happen because if you are on edge suspecting something you’re going to drive yourself nuts! Good luck it sounds like it’s happenjng soon!
Post # 6
eh. I had a few different times when I thought he was gonna propose last summer and he didn’t. After an initial sting of disappointment it was fine and I never got super upset about it. He ended up actually surprising me when he did it this summer so it all worked out.
Post # 7
I had some times where I thought it was going to happen and it didn’t, so I just tried not to think about it. Honestly, it’s better if you’re not thinking about it the whole time (I know, easier said than done).
I was pretty sure he wasn’t going to propose when we went to Door County on our anniversary, but I painted my nails just in case. It was the fact that I was drinking with my friend the weekend before, and she can’t keep a secret, she was saying, “I need to tell him to just propose already. When is he going to wife my girl?” I was sure he would talk to her first. But he didn’t and he ended up proposing to me that day. The best thing is to just enjoy yourself and let it happen when it does(because you know it’s going to happen).
Post # 8
It does suck. I had my suspicions my husband was going to propose on one of our anniversaries. I spent the whole day looking for signs and waiting for it rather than being in the moment and enjoying what he did have planned. When he didn’t propose, I was a little bummed but was mostly annoyed with myself for letting my imagination get the best of me.
So even though this sounds promising, I would say to do your best to put it out of your mind and have a good time either way!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2020 - Finger Lakes, NY
I’m in that stage now where I know he has the ring so it could be at any point between now and forever. I’m doing my best not to get my hopes up, especially since we went out to a nice dinner together already (with his mom and her boyfriend) and I thought it might have been then.
I was actually relieved it wasn’t versus disappointed because his mom’s boyfriend was an unusual level of frustrating that night.
It could be this weekend if we do wind up going out like we planned earlier this week when he rather suddenly was like “I want to go to the manor this weekend!” at me. I’m trying to keep Halloween in mind because it’s my favorite holiday so I don’t work myself up.
Hopefully if it doesn’t happen this weekend, I will be too busy taking photos to mind too much.
Post # 10
Keep us updated! Seems promising.
Post # 11
sarathemermaid : Charliejeorge : katecod12 : starryeyedandtonguetied : bostonbee2018 :
great advice, thank you!! I’m just going to enjoy the day tomorrow and try my best not to worry or overthink it too much!
And sable :
I totally agree with you, he’s so hyped about the beach and I’m just here like “boo we live 5 minutes away and we go pretty frequently and it’s 150 degrees, this will be fun but your excitement is overdoing it juuuuust a little bit” 😂
Post # 12
We went on a beautiful road trip holiday in October last year (our springtime) to Tasmania, booked a series of gorgeous, secluded, romantic accommodation. I was like 99% sure it would happen. It didn’t, I was shattered. He had ZERO clue that I had been expecting it, and was just booking things thinking I’d like them haha
It put a bit of a damper on the whole thing, but in the end it was gorgeous and he ended up proposing a few months later on New Year’s Eve.
BUT!!! what you described does sound super promising, and he sounds adorably excited about the whole thing 😀
Get your hopes up a little, but don’t let it get you down too much if it doesn’t happen tomorrow!! (if he’s sneaky enough, it might be an evil red herring… it might happen next week instead when you totally don’t expect it haha)
Post # 13
Meh, I wasn’t too bothered by it. Last summer we went on a trip to Europe and I was kind of hopeful/expecting he would propose in Paris. I just tried my best not to think about it. That said, it was easy to distract myself because I was in Paris lol. I was slightly disappointed when it didn’t happen, but I had such a great time anyway it didn’t matter too much.
Like PPs said just try not to get your hopes up too much. Try to just enjoy the day.
PS – I also live in South Florida! Hope it’s not too rainy for your beach day.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2020 - Finger Lakes, NY
HAHAHA YESS!! I knew it. Gorgeous ring! And the beach! Ugh. I’ve been itching to go to the beach lately. We live near several, but they’re not good beaches so I avoid them.