(Closed) no holiday proposal for me

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@mousiegirl:  I think it’s always better to communicate! Then there aren’t any undertones of tension and pushing things under the rug and all that– it does sound like it will be coming VERY soon, just maybe not as soon as you thought.

How fun that you get to design the ring with him!

Post # 4
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@mousiegirl:  It sounds like the two of you are on the same page, but you might let him know that a proposal needs to happen sooner, rather than later, if he wants to marry in 2013. My date is 2014, and I already have the venue and photog booked, if that gives you an idea of how early some brides start. If he waits til May or June, you might be stuck with an undesirable wedding date and none of your choice vendors. If it were me, I would tell him that I personally wasn’t picky on the date, but if he is, that needs to inform his proposal plans, because planning a wedding takes a lot more time than most men realize.

Post # 6
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@mousiegirl:  Oh, nice! Then I am sure it will be fine. I just assumed you were doing the usual thing and would have to rent a hall, book a caterer, and all of that. Your wedding sounds like it will be beautiful!

Post # 8
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3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

“It just goes against my nature to not be allowed to talk about something that so emotional, and so important to me.”

That is the best way I have ever heard that.

Post # 9
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9953 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mousiegirl:   This sounds so wonderful!  I’m like you and very big on communication.  I’m the kind of person who “thinks out loud,” and I can’t stifle my emotions easily. 

It really sounds as though your SO is looking just as forward to marrying you as you are to marrying him!  Don’t ya love true love?  ๐Ÿ™‚

He said to trust him and it sounds like you really can.  In the meantime if you’re about to pop from anticipation and excitement, there’s always the Bee you can vent on.  ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 10
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170 posts
Blushing bee

wow, that timeline must make it seem so much more solid and real.  It’s really really hard for us women to be out of the loop sometimes. I really struggle with the letting-go of control sometimes.  I like to be as “in charge” of my life as I can.

Post # 11
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8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mousiegirl:  See this is good news. It’ll be coming soon ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s good you had this talk!!

I don’t get the big deal about holiday proposals anyway. I’d rather have a proposal some other time of the year. Xmas is special enough as it is, without tacking something else on. Also, (and I know this sounds really negative) but if you’re proposed to on Xmas on your birthday or something and then you get divorced, wouldn’t it put a damper on future Xmases/birthdays? Just a thought.

 

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