Proposal with a cubic zirconia? Help?

posted 3 weeks ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2017 -  California

If he knows he knows nothing about stones, my guess is he’s just proposing with a CZ with plans for the both of you to pick out your forever ring together.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - By the lake

Is the metal 14KT or 18KT or Platinum?  If it’s sterling silver, I wouldn’t want to put moissanite because the metal is too soft.  You might lose the stone.  Do you like the look of the ring?  Or you just don’t care for the CZ?   I’m kind of the opposite.  I have a real diamond 14kt yellow gold that he proposed to me with, but I saw this CZ ring set that I just fell in love.  Since it’s not expensive, I bought the set and I prefer to wear that set than my real one.  Lol.  Well, hey, if something happens to that CZ set, I can always replace without filing any papers!  Though my real one is insured, I still would hate to lose it or someone steals it.

Post # 5
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Newbee

If he knows nothing about stones, he might think there is: diamonds, and everything else. Since you didn’t tell him you wanted a diamond and instead showed him other kinds of stones (moissanite is not something most people outside of the bee are even familiar with, did you explain to him exactly what a moissanite is and how it has similar properties to a diamond?) I think your guy might have thought the kind of stone didn’t matter much to you and went with the cheapest sparkly option since you didn’t care to have a “diamond” aka an expensive traditional stone to him.

I think if he did buy a CZ you just need to have a straight up talk with him about what kind of ring you want and tell him maybe there was a bit of miscommunication and it’s important to you to have a forever stone, just that there are now other options that are similar in durability and strenght to a diamond and you would like that.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

nataliesawitch :  

Yeah I agree,  he knows  a diamond is not on the cards but   probably figures that since CZ and moissanite are both diamond simulants, he’d go for the better deal pricewise. 

Myself on a  budget,  I’d go for semiprecious gem or a secondhand diamond, but nothing wrong with a sterling silver CZ !  Mine didn’t even  have a stone lol, and I love it still. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t be happy with a silver CZ ring as my engagement ring, every CZ piece of jewellery I’ve ever had has gone cloudy. Silver tarnishes after a while too and needs a lot of polishing to keep it looking sparkly. I think he understood you didn’t want a diamond and has looked into diamond sims and found CZ to be the cheapest and probably most diamond like so has gone with that, which while I understand his logic it’s not a piece of jewellery you can wear every day for the rest of your life.

I would ask him what the stone is and if he says CZ I would tactfully explain that while it’s a beautiful ring CZ’s don’t hold up well long term and you were thinking more along the lines of a moissanite for durability.  

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Sounds like you’re just going to ask him for you to go and choose a suitable, permanent ring together Bee! (If that’s not what he’s planning to do already..)

durability and suitability for work are key, so I think they are understandable reasons to swap it out

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Do you know if he would have a really tiny budget? My first thought is that this ring is probably a placeholder for a proposal and the idea is you pick something else after. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2020 - City, State

Oh man I sure hope it’s a placeholder. I would assume positive intent but personally I wouldn’t be happy with a sterling and cz e ring either. You def don’t want to bring it up before the proposal though, let him have his surprise.

If it’s sterling it’ll have a 925 stamp on it, which would be enough for you to know that it’s not a precious stone.

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