(Closed) Proposal without a ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you say YES if he proposed without a ring?

    YES!

    NO WAY!

    Maybe....

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    It’s hard because when you say you’re engaged, people automatically want to see your ring.  It’s really surprising to me in this day and age that an engagement is not considered “official” by many people until there is a ring.  My Fiance and I mutually agreed to marry months before he proposed, but we held off making an  announcement until we got the ring.

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Proposal and no ring would not have been okay with me.

    It was an important part of the whole Getting Married story for me, and as such, I was more than happy to contribute financially to the process.  In the end, he felt unconfortable taking my money towards the ring, and we took my money and put it into our house, instead.  

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If there was a shopping trip involved in the (very) near future sure! But even then I’d appreciate a simple placeholder ring for sentiment sake to use during the proposal. 

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper

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    loveisbrewing:  our story is the same. 

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee

    My proposal was without a ring because he wanted me to come along to pick it. Then we had to wait for it to be sized/and make a couple payments on it. The waiting sucked. 🙂 And yes, I remember people being all like “let’s see the rock” and I would explain it was being sized… anyway – of course say yes if you love him and want to be with him. But the whole down on one knee slipping the ring on the finger romantic proposal is wonderful – however sometimes the practical way makes sense too.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island

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    futuremrsbrist:  FI proposed to me without a ring because I told him ahead of time that I wanted to pick it out.  So the first time he asked me, we were just kinda laying on the beach and he asked me. And I said yes.  But  I made him ask me again because I wanted him to get down on one knee haha.  So two days later, he got down on one knee in one of my favorite vineyards and presented the ring he gave me on our 1-year dating anniversary to complete the image.  So yes, I said “yes!” without a ring, but then he gave me a ring I already had haha.
    But I wouldn’t change a thing because I got to design the ring of my dreams and all were happy 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    futuremrsbrist:  Heeeeeey! Our story is fairly similar! We were running errands and he asked me to marry him! While I was driving on the way home from Target! No ring! Haha! Of course I said yes and we’ve been married a year and a half now. He still calls me his beautiful bride. :o) I wouldn’t change a thing.

    Post # 9
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Oh man, we had been dating for 6 months when he started planning our wedding while out on a kayak ride… after about an hour of that conversation, I asked him “are we engaged?!” and he said “yeah, will you marry me?” and that was that. About a week later I told him I would have really liked a ring, which took him completely off guard (I guess I just assumed everyone knew that a lady would want a ring…). I picked out and ordered my own ring and now I have one. I would have really loved a stereotypical down-on-one-knee moment, BUT I’d rather have a husband who isn’t into big gestures but treats me like a queen every day of my life, which I have! We’ve been married over a year now. 

    Post # 10
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    I would and I did.  More or less, we mutually agreed to get married very early in our courtship and didn’t want a long engagement.  We picked out a ring that week, but the financial priority was nailing down vendors and paying deposits.  I told him I wanted my ring before we took engagement photos, and that’s when I got it. 

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2003

    We got engaged 100 years ago. It’s sort of a long story. But I was baptized and confirmed as an adult. He planned to propose the same day all that happened. He ordered the ring. Asked for it to be shipped to my parents house. He didn’t realize they didn’t have Saturday delivery. So he proposed without it because the day was important to him. I got the ring on Monday when UPS delivered it. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee

    I need a ring unless we are on our way to the store shortly after the proposal.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My DH proposed without a ring.  He did the whole get on one knee heart filled proposal but wanted to take me to pick out the ring since I had some strong feelings about it. We went the next weekend and he had 3 picked out with a center stone he had already gotten and I just made the final decision. My ring took a month to come in and then it was July 4th so it was delayed so I ended up having 6 weeks without it. Yeah people asked to see the ring when we said we were engaged but it didn’t really bother me, I just explained we went to pick it out after.  

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee

    I would not be ok with an engagment without a ring, but my DH wouldn’t have been either. He always says the ring seals the deal. He loves Mr. Big’s comment about needing a diamond in the Sex and the City Movie.

    To each their own, I wouldn’t judge someone if they didn’t have a ring, but it’s just not something I would be ok with.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee

     

    Yes. I said yes without a ring. I asked the darling dork where it was, and he smiled saying that whatever he picked I’d take back, anyway, right?, so why not shop together? And I chuckled because he knows me so well. We were shopping the next few days or so.

    To this day we tease each other about our proposal night.

    <3

     

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