Post # 1
I saw a beautiful proposal video where a guy put a lot of effort into making his soon-to-be fiance feel special. What always gets me though is when the guy gets on his knee and opens the ring box. I just don’t get it! Why not wait for the answer then give her the ring? Opening the ring box first makes me feel like the ring is supposed to having bearing on the answer. Why is this the tradition? Someone please help me solve this puzzling question.
Post # 2
While a proposal doesn’t have to include a ring I think when a ring is included its traditionally part of the package. Such as – Will you marry me? If you agree you will also get this ring/look at this ring that shows how committed I am to you.
Post # 3
When my fiancé proposed, he asked and I screamed Yes! before he had even opened up the ring box. I don’t think it really matters, but in some small way he likes that I didn’t even care what the ring looked like, I knew I wanted to marry him no matter what!
Post # 4
I jumped the gun a bit and said yes before he even got a chance to ask…
Post # 5
beemyname: Because in the roots of the tradition, the ring WAS supposed to factor into the potential fiance’s decision, although it was not always presented to the potential future wife. It was more often presented to her parents. It was meant to demonstrate that the suitor was able to pay the dowry and was able to afford to keep a wife. If the ring was low-budget then the family may decide not to allow their daughter to marry the suitor, and wait for someone with more money to come along.
Post # 6
I mean, back in the day I think the size of the diamond was important, because you needed a husband who could take care of you, and probably didn’t know your suitors that well.
Post # 7
beemyname: Funny you should bring this up, I am recently engaged and my fiance actually proposed before getting out the ring (he had it in his backpack). After I said “Of course!” he grabbed the ring and presented it to me. I was a little surprised at first but later decided it was so much better that way. I totally agree that shoving a beautiful ring in the girl’s face makes it feel like you are saying “yes” to the ring rather than the person holding it. I didn’t know anyone else felt this way, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one! 🙂
Post # 8
beemyname: I think you’re reading way to much into it.
Post # 9
I never really thought about it! When my SO proposed, he asked first, then I said yes, then he said “want to see the ring?”. So it doesn’t always happen that Way! He also didn’t get on one knee though 😛 I know when they do it seems that they offer up the ring at the same time.
Post # 10
I was so shocked and crying that I didn’t even notice the ring until minutes later!
Post # 11
beemyname: I think it’s just the traditional way it is always portrayed. I believe it adds a little surprise factor for the guy. Before he gets the question out of his mouth he opens the box and the girl sees it and her eyes get watery because it’s so beautiful and then the guy pipes up with his question and she’s overwhelmed… It’s probably more likely that the girl will be so pumped up to see him on his knee that shes already saying YESSSS!
I watched that video today too and I’ll admit I shed a few alligator sized tears. The planning/thought/effort he put into making that day special was admirable. Won’t happen for me that way but I would be stoked 😀
Post # 12
When my fiance proposed I gave him a huge hug and said yes before I even saw the ring! He was like, you didn’t even look at the ring yet! But obviously it was him I was saying yes to, not the ring. Although the ring was pretty spectacular and made the moment even better. 🙂
Post # 13
My FI proposed without a ring then we went and designed one together which we had custom made… not traditional but perfect for us! 🙂
Post # 14
i agree, i always said it makes the girls (in movies) look like they just want the ring. they deserve an answer even if its empty or has an “ugly” ring. i know girls that even said omg, let see the ring before they said yes. its crazy.
my my FH didn’t open the box until i had said yes. https://vimeo.com/105789033
Post # 15
I think these days the ring is just more of an indication that he’s really serious, as opposed to just “having the talk” about someday getting engaged.