Proposals where your SO has gone above and beyond

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My fiance used to mentor my manager and arranged for me to have off the day after our proposal for a lazy spa day. For our proposal, he proposed on the jumbotron at a baseball game and had my daughter record everything.

I was beyond surprised to say the least since he’s not into public anything. He was super cute afterwards- he jumped up during the final inning to go buy me a t-shirt so I’d remember the day. Not something that I’d ever forget 🙂

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

This sounds exactly like thegridmonster’s proposal! Hopefully she’ll respond! We were just on vacation and he asked while we were hiking, so nothing over the top. 

Post # 18
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Worker bee

My Darling Husband did exactly this, he went above and beyond anything I could’ve imagined.

 

My Darling Husband got my friends, family and supervisor in on my proposal. I thought I was attending a fancy high tea event that Saturaday, so I bought a nice dress and got my nails done on Thursday night with my sneaky sister. On friday at noon during work he calls me and tells me to pack all my stuff up and come downstairs of my office building (I totally thought he was joking). When I get there he has a nice car with a driver and is dressed up in a suit. I’m totally thinking “OMG, is going to propse to me during lunch, how am I supposed to work after this??!” (lol). Once in the car and he lets me lmpw that we’re going to the airport (!) and not to worry he’s spoken to my supervisor and I have the rest of the day off. My sisters have packed my suitcase (as soon as I left the house that morning) and it’s in the back of the car. We go to NYC and  a driver picks us up and takes us to a hotel next to central park in the most amazing suite. We get ready and head over to the “Tavern on the Green” a beautiful resurant in Central Park on the most amazing night with a live band and fairy lights as we sit outside. He proposes to me with the most amazing ring, custom made by our favourite/well known jeweller and has a horse carriage ride back out of Central Park. The next morning, he planned a photoshoot session in Central Park (as the photographer advised him the photos would turn out better in daylight opposed to when it’s dark). It was so surreal and amazing, and beyond anything I could’ve ever imagined him doing.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

I would be furious if my SO went around me to secretly arrange vacation time with my boss.  I’m an adult, I don’t want someone else making vacation-related decisions for me without consulting me. 

And frankly, I don’t think my boss would respond to that kind of request very well, either.  I think he’d find it really strange if my SO or a relative contacted him on my behalf unless it was to say “MissLucy was in a very bad car accident and is in the ICU right now” or something like that. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

anonp :  is having a really elaborate proposal going to make your relationship problems better? You are hyping up a potential proposal way more than you should just brcause you want so badly to be engaged. And you hope that if he plans something over the top it will mean he actually does love you and actually does want to marry you. Elaborateness of a proposal is not correlated to how much someone wants to be with you. Even if he plans something big, it doesn’t necessarily mean anything. He might still continue flirting with your cousin the week after. 

You need to decide for yourself if you actually want to marry this guy, regardless of how many roses he orders or what star rating the hotel is. 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

anonp :  of course you can dream. Just don’t do it to escape  reality and avoid difficult decisions. Besides a simple reality can be better than an elaborate fantasy. 

My experience….so I’ve had both the elaborate and simple proposal. My ex husband planned a very elaborate proposal. He didn’t ask for work off since it wasn’t necessary but he did have a scavenger hunt style thing with multiple locations and cards at each spot telling me the next location. He even picked out an outfit to wear. He had tons of roses. And it was all very romantic. The problem was that it didn’t seem like he did it for me. It seemed to be all so that he could brag and have a big show. Picking out an outfit felt very controlling. I don’t like roses (he knew). It definitely felt more like it was about being able to show off then actually showing that he loved me. 

My Fiance proposed in a very simple, sweet way. Nothing big was planned. No flowers. No fancy outfits. But it was so heartfelt and was genuinely about how he loved and wanted to marry me. The story wasn’t more important than the sentiment and who we are as a couple. 

Obviously there’s nothing wrong with a big elaborate proposal and I’m sure many people are really touched by them. But a proposal should match who you are as a couple and not try to use that as a method to show off or to fix something else wrong in your relationship. 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Fiance went way above and beyond. i would have been happy with a proposal on the sofa watching netflix! I think he just wanted to top his brother, who had planned an elaborate work related (shes a lawyer) proposal.

He fb messaged one of my bosses 2-3 months before the day. Got in touch with my other boss (through this one) to organize my time off. He had said he was planning a trip for our anniversary, but they did suspect a proposal. Anyways, he booked the trip, knew where my passport and all was. The night before, he made up some excuse about his car needing to go to the shop, so offered to drive me to work and then he’d take my car for the day. Whatever, i hate driving. So he was driving me to work and missed the 1st exit, then the 2nd, and finally told me we were going to the airport. We got there checked in, and jetted off to mexico! He again kept saying it was for our anniversary, etc. He proposed on our actual anniversary a few days later. He had packed for me, and bought a bunch of new stuff too! eta – he had packed up my car as soon as he got home (later than me) so he would have been SOL if I said no to him taking my car!

When I got back I didn’t tell anyone right away since I was waiting for the ring to be resized. But my boss was like ‘Sooo…pick up any hardware while you were down there..?’ haha.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

anonp :  It was fine! My bosses are pretty chill and had no problem with it. One of them got really into the whole lie (told me I had to be at work early for something, was checking what kind of breakfast sandwich I wanted, and was the first one to tell my coworkers why I didn’t show up). 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

anonp :  I hAd no idea! Once I found out I suspected a proposal though lol

Post # 29
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Bumble bee

anonp :  No, that would not be a pleasant surprise.  Fortunatley, my SO knows me and my personality well enough to know this would be highly unwelcome, and that it would also be viewed as highly unprofessional at my workplace.  

 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Nothing like that. But my Fiance did get down on one knee two weeks after knee surgery when he could neither bend nor put weight on his leg. That was above and beyond enough for me 🙂

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