(Closed) Proposing and ring ideas

posted 6 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Personally, I would do the dinner, wine, music …fireplace ??  Possibly in front of the fire, perhaps after dinner, with candles etc.  Is it in a wooded area ?  Possibly a nice walk and do it outside then the dinner ? 

 The ring… Obviously, you know your woman and her tastes right ??  So why not go for it.  Check etsy.com for some beautiful, unique rings.  It doesn’t have to be a diamond, or even any stone.  My fiancee and I never even looked at rings, however, I knew no matter what, that the ring he picked, came from his heart and was what he wanted to give to me to symbolize our love and commitment for each other. 

Hope this helps !

Post # 4
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

Aww I think your hot hub idea sounds really good, but it might be too complicated since you’ll have to distract her on top of all of your nervousness. 


Regarding the ring, why don’t you get a stand-in ring? Propose with SOMETHING, but maybe attach a note or tag that says she can pick out her own ring. 

Post # 7
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Maybe purchase a beautiful gemstone and have you and her design a setting together after you propose? That way you propose with something that will be in the ring, but she gets some say in how the final product ends up.

Post # 9
1813 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I like @AdriannaJean: ‘s idea of getting her a gemstone which she can then design a ring around. 

would be worried about proposing in the hot-tub though incase you dropped whatever you decide to give her.  I think dinner would be perfect – I love the simplicity of it.  Just you and her.  Could you get those posh plate covers – you know what I mean?  You could serve her one course (dessert maybe) under this and remove the cover in front of her and voila – the box.  Really old-skool romance…

Post # 10
2016 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i actually love the Haribo idea! a friend of mine proposed with a hula hoop crisp. she must have had tiny fingers!

Im going to sound a bit dumb here and no offense intended or anything, but do you get an engagement ring too?

Post # 12
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I love the haribo ring idea, that way you can have fun choosing the ring together and find something you both love. It would also be really personal because you have joked about it before. Maybe you could do that and make an appoinment to go to a jewellers a couple of days later so she also has that to look forward to. 

As a bonus it means you get to open a whole packet of haribo!

Post # 13
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@smith_stle:  hey.  I’m also in a lesbian couple and am proposing in December!  

I know exactly what you ar going through as I had the same dilema. Do I just pick a ring for her or let her choose?  And then what about my own ring?  Both of us would like a ring as a symbol of our love.  How my gf and I got around it is we have been very honest with eachother.  She knows I’m planning a proposal.  She doesn’t know when or where.  But we agreed that I would create a special occasion to give her the ring and make it official and then she would do likewise soon after.  With this in mind we went ring shopping to get an idea of what the other would want.  I have now purchased her ring, a beautiful white gold diamond band – very her and very suitable for her manual job.  This way I know I have got a ring she will love, but there is still the romance and surprise of a proposal.  She also knows what style of ring I would like.

Do let us know how it goes!  I’m proposing with a macaroon shaped ring box as my gf and I had our first 3 dates in cake shops and sweet treats are a big part of our relationship.  We love going out for a cake or a pastry and coffee.  It will be on a plate or in a picnic and it really does look like a macaroon!  She won’t suspect a thing until she realises its a box and not a cake… 

Post # 16
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I thought of loads of ideas of how to propose and some were quite elaborate but then I think I realised simple and intimate is best. We are going on holiday in January for her birthday so I may even wait until then and do it there.


Have a look in the wedding band section for rings – that’s where I found hers. Lol,I can’t imagine my gf with a giant diamond.  My friend once asked me if we’d both wear dresses when we got married and I just about wet myself laughing.  My gf is allergic to all things girlie and wouldn’t be caught dead in a dress.  So avoiding a ring diamond the size of New Mexico was 
a top priority for me.  

How cool we are proposing at very similiar times – be good to follow eachothers progress.  And I see you are Uk as well!  I’m on border between essex and London.

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