(Closed) Proposing at a wedding

posted 4 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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Busy bee

I would only be upset if they didn’t ask first. There are so many other appropriate times to ask someone to marry you then on someone else’s day. If it was about wanting the whole family together to witness it then a holiday would also work or maybe the bride-to-be’s birthday. It just seems very attention grabby otherwise. 

Post # 3
Hostess
2997 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Ohhhh hell naw. Not okay at all. My cousin pulled this sh*t the morning after my wedding at our brunch. They waited til the morning because they “didn’t want to steal our thunder”. I was livid! Can I get 24hours????

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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Lily_of_the_valley :  Why were you livid? It was after your wedding at a brunch not on the actual day. Since this was your cousin I’m assuming a lot of family members were present. On the day I’d be irritated if I wasn’t informed first, anytime after I wouldn’t care. No longer my day.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

No. I would not be okay with it, even if they asked. I am spending tons of money on my dream day and that doesn’t include someone getting engaged during an event I put so much time and effort into. I would honestly think the guy was not putting much effort into the proposal and I would be bitter about it taking away from me, I’m not self centered but I literally get one day, you couldn’t wait until the day after? 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Yeah no. Much in the same way that you have a hundred other colors to wear to a wedding besides white, you have 364 other days of the year to propose besides a friend’s wedding. If the bride and groom “only get one day,” they better get that whole day.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think its in poor taste but I wouldn’t be mad if it happened at my wedding.

Post # 9
Hostess
2997 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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heavenlyflower :  I was livid but didn’t show it externally. Internally I was fuming. It felt very attention stealing from someone who is a chronic attention grabber. Also, I felt like….take your own vacation and pay for it (it was a Destination Wedding and we paid for guests). I felt very used. I felt like the whole trip should have been about us because that’s why were there. But the attention shifted to them and her ring, her plans, calling her parents (who weren’t present)

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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heavenlyflower :  I would call the post-wedding brunch still part of the “wedding” especially if it was hosted by the B&G…. I mean I guess it is better than doing it like in the middle of their first dance but honestly unless the B&G are in on it and part of the surprise I don’t think it is really appropriate to do or announce anything like that (engagement/baby/big move etc) at someone else’s hosted event.

Post # 11
Hostess
2997 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think they should ask the bride and groom first to get approval. If it were to happpen at my wedding I wouldn’t mind even if they did not ask.

Post # 13
Hostess
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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Lily_of_the_valley :  I realize this reply sounds like I’M the attention grabber but I really don’t think I am. It’s just really disheartening when your family can’t give you 1 friggen day!

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littlemisshostess :  Fo sho!

Post # 14
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Heads would rollllllll in my family! In what world is someone else’s wedding a dream proposal also? Uhg. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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Lily_of_the_valley :  wtf? Why would that make you livid? It’s a new day. And they did give you a day, it’s called your wedding day.

 

Anyway OP I would hope they ask first, and we would say no lol. If someone did that I would hope it was towards the end, I would be annoyed on the inside but let it go, my fiancé on the other hand is a Scorpio so he would hold that grudge against them forever.

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