Post # 16
If that had happened at my wedding I would probably never speak to the couple again (although I’d pretend to be psyched in the moment if she said yes). I get it – there is a big beautiful party all set for the guy right? Wrong. My hard work and cash went into this night dude, don’t be a mooch and plan your own thing.
And FWIW if I was proposed to at someone else’s wedding I would die of embarassment and dump the guy.
Post # 18
I’m kind of worried about this happening! We’re having a Destination Wedding and one of our guests is just the sort of person who would do that. It’s more that it would make everybody else feel awkward if it happened.
Post # 19
We put a lot of time and money and energy and effort into planning our wedding. I would beat ass.
Unless it was my brother and he asked first- then it would have been sweet. Anyone else would get an earful.
That’s so inconsiderate.
Post # 20
it’s rather in poor taste.
Post # 21
totally happened at my Destination Wedding and I too sort of predicted it. They are just that type of couple. Can never let anyone else have the spotlight. Everyone thought it was really awkward and were looking at me for my reaction.
Post # 22
I think they should ask first. But I persoally think it’s in bad taste even put people in that position. He should plan his own proposal on another day. I think its reasonable to be allowed ONE day to celebrate your wedding . I mean that’s not asking much.
The over the top, look at me proposals are a huge pet peeve of mine and I hate them very much. This to me is in that category.
Post # 23
I find that horribly tacky, unless the bride and groom have agreed to it beforehand.
Post # 24
id be pissed, even if it was my bff or family who tried to pull that kinda crap id be pissed. If i witnessed it at another wedding, id definitely be side eyeing it, unless the bride and groom were in on it and gave approval then sure.
im not a fan of over the top proposals personally, but i know tons of people who love them, so to each his own.
Post # 25
Thanks for all the replies everyone! And different view points.
Post # 26
people saying you only get one day… wrong, in life you get MANY days which would be inappropriate to propose on and any event hosted and funded by someone else honoring someone other than yourselves is one of them and it doesnt matter if its a wedding or birthday or graduation or job leaving or funeral
Post # 28
I’d be livid too.
Yes your wedding is one day… but it’s actually NOT. It’s the engagement party, the bridal shower, the rehersal dinner, the bachlorette party, and if you host a thank you brunch the day after it’s that too.
I wouldn’t be mad if someone couldn’t be there for one of those 989090594305 events that lead up to a a wedding but to grab attention on those days isn’t right.
Post # 29
If someone chose the 1 day i have put my blood sweat and tears into to propose to their partner i would be so upset/angry. How much attention must you crave to do this at someone elses wedding? Spend your own money setting up a nice proposal not mine!
Post # 30
I won’t argue with your point but we clearly have a difference of opinions.As I stated to another bee, it was a Destination Wedding paid for by us. A brunch hosted by us which, in my head, was to gather and talk about how much fun last night was. But that def didn’t happen. One last thing, none of her or his immediate family was there. Parents or siblings….I would think those people would be important to them if that was the plan….but it wasn’t.