(Closed) Proposing at a wedding

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 76
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

It depends. If we are close to the couple and they ask beforehand, maybe (but still leaning towards no because I didn’t spend a year and half planning an event for it to be focused on another couple). If we aren’t that close and they do it without asking, a strong HELL NO. This is actually one of our fears since FI’s brother loves to be the center of attention/upstage Fiance any chance he gets. He’s known to make rash decisions for attention so if he tries anything I will be pissed.

Post # 77
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

I’d honestly be fine with it as long as I was informed beforehand and it wasn’t during the speeches or something lol!

But seriously, our Wedding venue has amazing food and beautiful grounds – I could understand someone wanting to capitalise on that! 

Also, a UK Wedding is an all day thing so if it’s at the evening reception I’ll probably be too drunk to care by that point haha

Post # 78
2141 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

as another perspective, what if the person being proposed to flips?


I had panic attacks everytime my fiance tried to propose, obviously the first time we had no idea it was going to happen and the ensuing panic attack was uncontrollable and lasted 2 whole days, Im not the panicing type and though I was nuts so googled it and apparently its not that rare… imagine that in the middle of a wedding


in the end it took 6 whole months and me proposing to get passed the panic attacks (its easier not to freak when your in control and know whats coming and can change it if needed lol)

Post # 79
718 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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futuremrsferrell :  haha, and this is why I said they have to ask permission. Some people just want their day to be all about them, period, and will not share the spotlight with anyone, so if the person asks and is told no, well they will find another way! My point is, if they asked permission and the bride and groom said yes, then that is fine. Obviously if the bride and groom were not fans of the idea, they would say no and that would be that.

I personally love the idea I shared, and if someone close to me wanted me to do that for them, I would love being in on it, and being such a big part of this HUGE moment in their lives, but it would need to be someone very close, not some random cousin whose girlfriend I have never even met, hahaha. Like my sister, or best friend, or my SO’s sibling or best friend type of thing. Anyone else, hell no! hehe.

Post # 80
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think it’s tacky. It;s their day. That includes ANYTHING to do with the wedding… like Rehersal dinner, The Wedding day itself or the festivities the day after the wedding.

And if you HAVE to capatlize on the fact that you’re already in a beautiful place and are showered and dressed lol! go do it in private… make it about you two. Dont rain on someone else’s parade. They are still enjoying their moment, so to speak.

Post # 81
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

I wouldn’t mind if someone proppsed at my reception- or announced an engagement/ pregnancy/ graduation etc, but it would be nice if they asked first (not necessary, but thoughtful)

However, many people would NOT be okay with this- so I wouldn’t want to be proposed to at someone else’s wedding. Besides not being a big fan of public proposals, I think the romance of the moment would be spoiled by me hissing in DH’s ear What the fuck are you doing? Don’t, get up! I’d be too worried if this was okay with the bride and groom, did DH ask them beforehand etc, it would totally distract me from the proposal & would be awkward AF

Post # 82
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

I don’t think I’d be mad as long as I was told first, but I’d feel weird/bad for them. You couldnt do anything yourself so you waited until someone ELSE paid for a big fancy party with all of your family and friends exactly how THEY like it, and ride those coattails? Are you a starving student, or just have zero imagination? 

Post # 83
403 posts
Helper bee

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davidswife :  Tacky. It is the bride and groom’s day to shine.

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