Proposing to girlfriend (asking her father)

posted 1 year ago in Proposals
Post # 2
4103 posts
Honey bee

I would text and ask to have a few moments alone on the day you have lunch with her. I would also, if possible, learn how to ask for his blessing in Portuguese. 

Post # 3
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

If I were you I’d have somebody translate the question and then practice asking him in Portuguese. I think he might appreciate that you put in the effort. 

Post # 5
4103 posts
Honey bee

howitzer1944 :  it is respectful and also I think he’ll appreciate the effort, like PP said. So I’m sure he won’t be critiquing your Portuguese lol. Best of luck!

Post # 6
1279 posts
Bumble bee

howitzer1944 :  Makes me think of Love Actually when Colin Firth proposed 🙂

Post # 7
125 posts
Blushing bee

You said you discussed marriage and are on the same page. Just to clarify, does she want you to ask her father?

If yes, then great. The asking in portugese idea sounds good.

If you haven’t discussed that, then I’d double check that she’s happy with you asking her dad.

I think I’d vomit in my mouth if my partner asked my dad for permission/his blessing to propose.

Post # 8
7915 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

onlythemarginleft :  +1. My husband knew he’d be a dead man if he asked anyone but me if we could get married. 

Post # 9
648 posts
Busy bee

onlythemarginleft :  I was going to say the same thing. Find out if it’s important to her. I told my Fiance definitely do not do that!!!! I know some people like it but I think it’s a super outdated tradition. 

Post # 10
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Perhaps it’s important to OP to ask for his FIL’s blessing. Autonomy goes both ways. 


I agree with PP, send a text, and ask in Portuguese! 

Post # 11
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Is green with Pps,  ask in Portuguese.  I personally see it as a sweet tradition rather than an outdated one.  All my brothers in law did and and Dh did as well.  It was funny that Dh was the only one he didn’t give a hard time too.  It helps that we play video games with dad. 

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