Proposing to girlfriend with teeeny hands, help!

posted 7 months ago in Proposals
Post # 2
998 posts
Busy bee

sorlies85 :  I really don’t see how you physically couldn’t fit two rings, coming from someone with small hands.

Look on etsy, but you don’t need a ring to propose, particularly if rings aren’t her thing and you don’t think she will want to wear one.

Post # 3
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I have tiny hands! It might be hard to find out her ring size without her knowing that you’re looking. Can she give you any direction or do you want it to be a complete surprise?

Post # 7
41 posts

 I have what I think are child-sized hands, I wear a 2.75-3 ring size and the length of my whole hand is the same length as my iPhone 6s. For years I wore an engagement ring and wedding ring of 2.5mm thickness (each) and had zero issues.  I think Etsy is a great place to start! 

Post # 8
5184 posts
Bee Keeper

sorlies85 :  My hands match the size of some 10 year olds.  and I can wear a 7mm ring (whether if it’s just a band or an ering and band combined).

Post # 9
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Are you sure she doesn’t want a stone? It doesn’t have to be a diamond or anything flashy. I think that’s probably the most important thing to figure out. Otherwise, a plain band with engraving could be nice. Palladium is a bit more expensive than gold (it’s in the platinum family) but looks beautiful with a brushed finish and would be a really nice forever piece.

Post # 10
2032 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would propose with a plain cheap band and then go shopping together since you really don’t sound like you have any idea what she would like. 

Post # 12
1215 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Honestly, I really think you shoudl have a conversation with her if you are considering going with something that is less common like you are mentioning.  

Post # 13
1273 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

If you are not against a silicone ring, I have a copper enso ring that is beautiful! It could easily be worn alone as just a wedding band, and it’s very comfortable! It is a true copper color and very metallic looking. I have very small hands (often the same size as children’s hands) and I feel like it’s not too thick 🙂

I don’t have a great picture of it on me, but you can see it on a female hand here (from their website)


Elements Thin Silicone Ring – Copper

Post # 14
2032 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Whirlwind03 :  + 1.

I would be a bit annoyed if my fiancé got me a very different ring without any idea if that’s what I actually wanted. 

Story time, I know a couple who recently got engaged. The guy didn’t have a lot of money so she wasn’t expecting a huge stone or anything. That’s fine. But instead of getting something within his budget with her input, he wanted it to be a surprise and worked with a jeweller to get a custom made ring. It’s hideous. Absolutely hideous. The fact that he actually chose for the ring to look like that makes it so much worse. And it looks like it took some effort to create so I’m sure it wasn’t even that cheap. When people ask her about her ring (as many people do when you first get engaged), she looks embarrassed and unwilling to show it off. She’s made a side comment once about “getting something nicer later when there’s more money”. I am 100% sure he could have gotten something so much prettier within his budget if he had actually asked her what she would like. But because he put a lot of effort into designing this, it’s not going to be easy for her to say she’d like something different. 

So, either ask for her input or propose with a stand in ring and then pick out something together. Don’t put your girlfriend in the position of not liking what you got her just so you can have that surprise factor. The surprise may not be in your favour. 

Post # 15
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

So just to be clear, she has very short fingers, but they are wide? Just trying to picture it because you said you are the same ring size. What is her ring size exactly?

I don’t think there is anyone with stubby enough fingers that two rings would not fit as long as they weren’t massive rings. If she doesn’t want an engagement ring though then getting just a band makes sense, maybe a 2mm band in a brushed metal?

This is pretty:

Or maybe this?:

Or this if you want something with more texture: 

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