Post # 1
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61 posts
Worker bee
Hi ladies, Do you think its weird if he proposes with a ring I chose and bought? My SO still wants to buy something for me so his ego isn’t hurt. Have any of you helped in the purchasing of your ring or bought your ring yourself. If this is too personal please do not answer. My SO wants me to be happy ultimately. But I know he’s been dreaming of getting me something around 3000. And my own ring was about $25. What can I say I just believe in putting the money towards our house.
Post # 2
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1352 posts
Bumble bee
Are you saying that you bought a ring, gave it to him, and he would propose with it? If that fits with your vibe as a couple, sure whatever! Fiance and I kind of thought of the proposal as “his thing” – he asked me what I wanted but ultimately he bought and chose it, which worked for us. Personally I wanted a ring that would last for generations, and Fiance agreed, but that’s a personal choice. Somehow the idea of buying my own engagement ring seems odd, but maybe that’s just cultural brainwashing. If your arrangement works for both parties (if both of you are happy with it) then there’s nothing wrong with it!
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
If your SO’s cool with it, go for it. If he feels like that’s stepping on his toes, I’d try to find some kind of compromise that’ll make you both happy.
Post # 4
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241 posts
Helper bee
Since your ring didn’t cost that much, I don’t see why he can’t still buy you the ring he wants. I know how you feel when it comes to wanting to spend your money on something like a house rather then a material possession but you will have that ring forever. I think buying an engagement ring is something that men look forward to and is a reflection on him so if he wants to buy you a ring I think you should let him. But if he’s fine with the ring you picked then I don’t see anything wrong with using it.
Post # 6
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61 posts
Worker bee
oOmrsstopaOo: I’m going with your idea! Thank u!