(Closed) Proposing with a ring I chose (Poll)

posted 5 years ago in Accessories
  • poll: If you were certain a ring you already owned was the one you wanted for your engagement would you:
    Use the ring! : (7 votes)
    47 %
    Use the ring and let your SO buy you something else so he doesn't feel like you've taken his job : (0 votes)
    Don't take his special moment of choosing the perfect ring for you : (5 votes)
    33 %
    Tell him to take that ring and find his own version similar to it : (3 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1352 posts
    Bumble bee

    Are you saying that you bought a ring, gave it to him, and he would propose with it? If that fits with your vibe as a couple, sure whatever! Fiance and I kind of thought of the proposal as “his thing” – he asked me what I wanted but ultimately he bought and chose it, which worked for us. Personally I wanted a ring that would last for generations, and Fiance agreed, but that’s a personal choice. Somehow the idea of buying my own engagement ring seems odd, but maybe that’s just cultural brainwashing. If your arrangement works for both parties (if both of you are happy with it) then there’s nothing wrong with it!

    Post # 3
    Member
    9397 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    If your SO’s cool with it, go for it. If he feels like that’s stepping on his toes, I’d try to find some kind of compromise that’ll make you both happy.

    Post # 4
    Member
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Since your ring didn’t cost that much, I don’t see why he can’t still buy you the ring he wants. I know how you feel when it comes to wanting to spend your money on something like a house rather then a material possession but you will have that ring forever. I think buying an engagement ring is something that men look forward to and is a reflection on him so if he wants to buy you a ring I think you should let him. But if he’s fine with the ring you picked then I don’t see anything wrong with using it.

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