(Closed) Proposing with a ring or not?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee

It depends on if you think he will pick out one that you like. I would like my boyfriend to propose with a ring so I can show off after, especially since he has shown me ones he likes to see if I liked them and I do, which is surprising because we have extremely different tastes and he has gotten me some jewelery in the past that was totally not my style.

However, if it were a matter of him not being able to afford a ring yet, id rather he just went ahead and proposed as soon as he was ready because the engagement is more important to me than the engagement ring.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Already married, but I have to say, if he’d proposed without a ring, I’d wonder if he was serious or not.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I’m not sure I would have taken Darling Husband seriously if he had proposed to me without a ring. 

But then again, him taking the initiative and picking out a ring he thought I would love was most of what made our engagement so special. He was also 100% accomodating and told me if I didn’t like it, we could exchange it for a diffierent one or I could get a stand-alone wedding band (since it wasn’t a traditional e-ring) but he did a FANTASTIC job and picked a ring I absolutely love; so much so that when we got married and I couldn’t find a ring to pair with it, we had a custom wedding set made to match it. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I know some men would really prefer this because then it takes the pressure off the girlfriend not liking the ring. Some girlfriends would love it because then they get to pick the ring together with their fiance. It’s really dependent on the couple.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

And if he did propose without a ring he would have to make sure he was down on one knee and making it very clear that he was proposing and not just having one of his sweet talks about how he wants to marry me one day 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I think proposing without a ring is neat, because then you can get to pick it out together! But what we’re doing is the best of both worlds I think… I picked out what I want, so I know I will love it. He’s happy, I’m happy. We both have had plenty of talks about getting married and are in agreement that this is what we both want, so in that respect, it won’t be a “surprise” (and I wouldn’t want it to be!). Now that he knows what I want, it’s up to him when to buy it, plan the proposal time and place and how. So I get to be surprised by how he pulls everything together and know I’m getting the ring of my dreams!

Just one of many ways to do it. Don’t worry about how other people do it, and find what works for you.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I think I’d prefer with a ring but I also think I would be so annoyed that I wouldn’t get to wear it ASAP if it didn’t fit. But either way, it’s the beginning of a happy forever so it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Gosh i would LOVE it if he proposed without a ring!! then i could pick my ring out!!

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