(Closed) Proposing without a ring

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Busy bee

You could get a cheapie ring to propose with? Then tell her the proper ring is on it’s way 🙂

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

How special is the holiday/how elaborate is the proposal plan?  Personally I’d rather be presented with the ring at the proposal, so if the answer to those questions is “not very,” I’d be happier with a postponed proposal.  But if it’s a once-in-a-lifetime holiday, then I’d say go for it and reassure her the ring will be forthcoming as soon as.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My DH proposed without a ring while we were on vacation and I got the ring a week later. I always thought it would be disappointing to not get the ring at the proposal but it honestly didn’t bother me at all. He still got down on one knee and said such sweet things when he asked. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

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chancetay8382 :  My Fiance proposed with a cheap placeholder ring he got at Macy’s. He got one of those birthstone rings (April is diamond). I’m sure she can wait a few days for the actual ring. 🙂 

The plus side of getting a placeholder ring is that your fiancee can pick what ring setting she wants, too!! 🙂 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Oh don’t worry – just propose with a cute heart joke ring or something. You could perhaps print of a little photo of her ring and roll it up and put the joke ring over it so she can see what’s coming. If you weren’t on holiday id say hang on but a proposal is the romantic part. It will be exciting to go in and pick the ring up together. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Get something like a cheap ring or ring pop – with a freakishly large ‘diamond’, do the proposal the way you planned, and give her the ring saying ‘this is how big a diamond you deserve’. She’ll probably laugh at the fake ring – then just tell her the truth – that you’ve been planning this for months and the jewelry store screwed up. If she doesn’t like this proposal I’d be worried  – because

1) you should always marry someone with a sense of humour – if not your married life will be too serious, and

2) you want to marry someone who can deal with a few upsets in life. If she expects everyone to always be perfect and life to always go her way, life will be very hard for the next 50+ years for the two of you..

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I personally wouldn’t care if the ring was late and would still be happy with the proposal…..but I think the suggestions above to get a cheap stand ring work as well. Ask the store if they have a fake stand in one for you. I’ve known of stores that do. Otherwise, a $30 cubic zirconia ring will do. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Everything @mishybear said. 

 

I would be fine with this and totally understand! 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I agree with PP, a cheap temp ring would be fine. 

You’re going to be great! Keep us posted 🙂

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

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chancetay8382 :  Just wanted to chime in with an alternate opinion. I would not like to be proposed to with a temp/cheap ring. I would rather be proposed to without a ring at all and wait for it. I would feel like all the emotional significance would be attached to the cheap ring (to me, that ring would be my engagement ring), rather than the real one. It’s the same reason that I don’t like the idea of upgraded engagement rings. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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SithLady :  good point! If she’s a really sentimental sort, she might feel like the stand in ring is her official ring. Only you can judge what your girlfriend would feel. 

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Personally I’d like to have something on my finger if I’m getting proposed to. even if it’s a ring pop candy.

Two options:

1. Propose to her once the engagement ring arrives, or

2. Propose with an affordable stand-in ring (think costume jewelry on Amazon or at Nordstrom Rack or Old Navy). It will have sentimental value and she can wear it when you guys are traveling (and don’t want to risk losing the real E-Ring).

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