(Closed) proposition . . . prostitution?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Darling Husband used to say stupid stuff like that all the time.  Finally I told him how those comments made me feel.  He hasn’t done it since.  I really do think that they think they are being funny, but you just have to take the time to tell them they are being hurtful and not funny and I think it should stop.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think this is one of the craziest things I’ve ever heard lol. Not necessarily in a bad way though. My boyfriend and I are all the time making wierd deals that other ppl would probably think are insane. I would say you can’t be a prostitute if you are already engaged to be married to the guy, so you might as well learn to contain your gag reflex 😉

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s offensive… :-/

I think you should feel offended…

Nobody should be pressured into doing anything any sexual “favors” that they aren’t comfortable with. And they DEFINITELY shouldn’t pay for them. I’m shocked that he would even suggest that. Ew.

I’m so sorry if that seems harsh… I’m creeped out on your behalf!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

OH my! Although Fiance knows better than to say anything like that to me (I kind of already do it anyway 😉 )I agree with KatNewby on this one! You’re already engaged and are going to be married! Maybe this is his way of getting you to do it??? Lol. Has he asked you to do this before without money being involved?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Firestarter: Are you freakin’ kidding me? My honest instant reaction? If my Fiance seriously meant that, that would be a deal breaker. How dare he reduce your presence in his life, living together, to a matter of you swallowing, and make it seem like he’s doing you the favor of paying him less towards rent/utilities. It is belittling, demeaning and downright wrong. I’d tell him I’d found a better deal moving in with a friend – saving money, and my pride.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

@jayebaby: I agree. Even if it’s not what he intends, it sounds like he is trying to pressure you into something you are not comfortable with, and that is not appropriate.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Meh, I don’t think its a big deal. You are getting married to the guy. If it really bothers you, then you should talk to him about it. If it doesn’t bother you, then “down the hatch” lol.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

The first time I would think it was a joke. The second time he would say it to me I would be insulted. If he’s not happy sexually he shouldn’t have to bribe you through money and savings; he needs to talk to you about it. Disrespectful IMO.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@Kat:  I would say you can’t be a prostitute if you are already engaged to be married to the guy, so you might as well learn to contain your gag reflex 😉

I would disagree with that. He’s asking her to do something and in return she will pay less rent. I also believe that it is rape when a husband forces his wife to have sex when she said no even though they are married. Your relationship status doesn’t change that act. She’s low on cash, he knows it and he says he’ll give her a lower amount to pay every month if she performs a sex act. That’s unfair. She doesn’t like doing it, but money is tight. I would be so pissed and offended. OP, tell him how you are feeling, if he seriously is joking, he should stop.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I just wanted to add this: How can anyone get sexual satisfaction out of something that disgusts/offends/is not appealing to their partner? Maybe I am reading way too far into this but this but I can’t imagine getting any pleasure out of something I had to bribe my man to do. I would feel vaguely sadistic by even suggesting it. I just can’t wrap my head around being aroused by something the other party didn’t want to do.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If it bothers you don’t do it.  It doesn’t sound like he’s forcing you.  But on the other hand, if you didn’t mind it- then I would see nothing wrong with it.  Couples all have different “agreements”- who am I to judge?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Firestarter:  Then that should be the end of it and he should respect it. You don’t like it, end of story. Trying to get you to do it anyways through by way of bribery with money is disrespectful to you. I don’t care if you are marrying the guy; it’s a level of respect he is clearly missing.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If Danny asked me that SERIOUSLY (not in an actual joking manner) he’d get slapped. Not condoning violence here, but he’d get smacked. He’d never do that, though. I don’t do sexual favors for cash. 

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