Post # 1
I felt very strongly about not changing my last name, but my Fiance feels very strongly about us having the same last name so he suggested having both of us change our last names to include the other’s.
My question is whether we should have both last names separated by a space or with a hyphen.
So, for example
I’m leaning towards just have the double-barrelled last name separated by a space because it seems more aesthetically pleasing, but I wanted to hear from people who have actually done that. Are there any pros and cons to either choice? I added a poll for fun.
Post # 2
We both changed our names and did not do a hyphen. We feel really good about it. So that is a pro. It was also much easier to get done than I had expected also a pro in my book.
The DMV had to hyphenate our last names in order to get both to appear on the correct line on our licenses.
People still send things to Mr. & Mrs. Herrera anyway even those that know like my grandma etc. but whatever.
Post # 3
Can you combine the two names into one name and use that? Like Broson + White = Brite
Post # 4
I have a hyphenated double barrelled name as my maiden name (happily changing it in October) , I think with a hyphen it’s considered my whole name but is often misspelt or they only use half of it but without a hyphen there’s a chance one name would be considered a middle name on pc systems and things.
Post # 5
I did a double middle name. It was easier as we have a child together and I liked the idea of my name matching hers but I love my middle name and my maiden.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2021 - City, State
My fiancé suggested this but my surname isn’t short neither is his, so nope!
wed be the McCrann-Galloway
Post # 7
Thanks! I’m glad to hear it worked out for you! I guess I worried that I couldn’t hyphenate sometimes and it would cause issues (like at the DMV).
I would have loved that! Unfortunately, we both have pretty long names that don’t sound good if we try to mash them! :/ Thanks for the suggestion though!
Were there any big problems with having a hyphenated name? Other than misspelling them and only using one last name or other.
I love my middle name too! Did your partner also change their name? Have you had any problems with a double middle name?
Yeah our last names are pretty long too. It’s going to be a mouthful for sure.
Post # 8
No problems so far! He kept his name.
Post # 10
I’m going to try the double middle name.
My middle name right now is the same as my mom’s first name. So for example mom’s name is Benedicta Smith, and my name is Teresa Benedicta Smith.I would like to keep my mom’s full name within my full name when I get married.
If I had a double barrelled last name it would have 6 syllables. Too much imo, I can already see myself struggling to spell it out over the phone.
I have friend who gave their babies 2 middle names, and no issues yet. They are only in kindergarten and younger though.
Post # 11
I tried both. When your business card (or PTA directory, etc.) says “Sally Jones Smith” people will call you Sally Smith. This happened to me no matter how many times I corrected some people. Most forms will allow you to list Jones as your middle name but won’t allow Jones Smith as a last name.
If you choose Jones-Smith you will at least be introduced with both names but people may still try to shorten it to one depending upon the setting and where you live. If your last names are long you will not be able to fit the hyphenated version on many forms as they typically allow limited characters. It’s a pain. Good luck!
Post # 12
That’s so beautiful! I totally see why you would want to keep your mother’s full name within yours. If we double barrel, my last name would have 6 syllables too. It’s definitely not ideal.
That’s a really great point. It’s frustrating to me that people will call me one name or the other, but I don’t see an easy way to prevent that. Professionally, I would still go by my maiden name because that’s what I’ve published under, so at least in professional settings it’ll be less of a problem.
Post # 13
I have a double barrell hyphenated last name…. so my name is first name maiden name-husbands name. i hyphenated it because without the hyphen I wondered if people would mistake my maiden name as a middle name and ‘drop’ it somehow on paperwork, etc. I had also heard about the DMV situation, so the hyphen solved that problem.
that said….. nobody ever calls me by my legal name. friends pre mariage refer to me by my maiden name, but typically I am called by one last name or the other. My work email was defaulted to both last names together- like one big long word ( I had no choice in the matter)…. and that gets confusing for coworkers and clients.
If I had to do it all over again, I don’t think I’d go the double barrel route, but then again, I don’t actually know what name I would go by as my dh wanted me to have his name, and I wanted to keep my maiden name, especially as I was known professionally by that name for many years before we married. Now when I introduce myself I just say that my name is Claire, and if anyone asks about my last name I say something goofy like…. oh, just call me Claire, the same way you would Cher or Madonna 😉
Post # 14
Nothing major, only other things is with bank cards I can’t have my full name on them and electronic systems like online forms don’t like hyphens sometimes which can be annoying, uk driving licences fit a good number of character but my name just fits on that. It’s just all those little things made me decide amongst other reasons I d be happier taking fis surname.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I’d planned on making my last name a second middle name, but they weren’t able to enter that into the computer system when we went to get our license. They said I had to give up my middle name, last name, or hyphenate, so I chose to hyphenate my last name with his. Not exactly what I wanted, but it was better than losing my names.