Post # 17
@SonjaFunnell: DH and I were going to elope but instead decided to invite our immediate families and best friends. There were 14 of us in total. Looking back I couldn’t imagine doing it without my parents and sisters and BFF. I also don’t think that either option reduces stress, you’re just stressed about different things. I feel like you only get to do it once, so do it with your families (doesnt have to be a big thing) and then use your honeymoon as your alone time.
Post # 18
I’m not a fan of most destination weddings, particularly when it’s a choice between friends and family or a nicer venue. Your family and friends may not want to lay a guilt trip on you, but I would think about how meaningful it might be, now and in the future, to have them there. What I really remember most years after I was married is the people who were there, and what that meant to me, not the beautiful table settings or the gorgeous architecture of the place.
Post # 19
We rented 2 big houses for us and our wedding party so we were able to get ready at one of the houses, then took a shuttle to the venue (we also had a shuttle take us back at the end of the night). DH and groomsmen got ready at the venue to make it even simpler.
We brought a lot of our own decor like lace table runners, wooden letters, blue mason jars (which we used as favors), etc.
If you feel like you might even have an inkling of regret without your families, then you may want to consider. But if the setting and having something extra special with your Fiance is more important, then go for it!
Are you absolutely sure people wouldn’t be able to come? We were surprised at the number of family that went to Hawaii all the way from the Midwest!
Post # 20
def not an arch lol! most places have arches or SOMETHING to have the couple under. but my friend brought her own flowers,/bouquet, even for the BMs ands best man, she brought her own table center pieces as well as place cards / favors. im not sure this actually saved alooot of money but def. helped her peraonlize a bit more, shes artsy fartsy like that too. she made her own invites as well.
Post # 21
you can also bring say a personal cake topper/wedding cake cuter. just try to think of all the things you would need to purchase if you were doibg it at home! you can bring aisle runners too ect etc
Post # 22
We had an elopment-esque wedding. (Only our parents were invited). The bed and breakfast was located 4 hours away from our home. My husband and I drove up together the morning of and even stopped for breakfast. Our parents left around the same time we did. Our wedding ceremony was around 3pm. I got myself ready in our room and my husband got ready in one of the other rooms. We did our first look and took the bulk of our pictures before the ceremony then came back in and got married. After our ceremony we had cake cutting pictures and sparkling cider toast pictures. We then went out out for a few more pictures and a hourse and carriage ride to dinner. Our parents met us for dinner. It wasn’t super traditional, but it was absolutely lovely. I loved everything about our wedding. And if I had to do it over again with a million dollars I would not change a thing about that day.
We had a reception for those who couldn’t attend when we got back from our honeymoon which was really nice.
I see your pros and cons list, but it really boils down to what you ultimately want out of that day. I understand about cruise pricing as I live in Florida and the summer prices can be outrageous when compared to other times of the years.
I hope you reach a relatively painless decision! Wedding planning is so much fun.
Post # 23
@SonjaFunnell: I am planning a Destination Wedding in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. We sent out 25 invitations and we have 18 people attending including ourselves – talk about pressure! Planning the wedding from home has been relatively painless but of course there are some things that cause me to be quite anxious (cant see the reception location in person, wont be able to sample the food or cake prior to). Our wedding planners, who we found thru our photographers, have been wonderful thus far and are hard at work pulling it all together.
If you prefer to enjoy an exotic location with your new husband that definitely look into a destination wedding. It could be the most amazing experience!
Post # 24
@SonjaFunnell: I had a small list of people I could not live without on my wedding day. Mom, Dad, Sister and 3 best friends. My wedding was destination for my side because we chose his hometown in Ireland.
However, if those 6 people had not been able to come – I don;t think i would have been able to have the wedding in a dif country.
With that said, small and intimate sounds beautiful – i just know i personally needed a few people by my side that i could not imagine my day without. You could however elope the two of you and then have a reception back home.