Pros to no wedding party: No hurt feelings/boohooing, No worrying about bridal party fittings, no buying gifts for the bridal party, no awkwardness if someone turns down an invitation to be in the party, etc. I find that people tend to get their hopes up when they ask someone to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, too; if the Bridesmaid or Best Man doesn’t come through with a bachelorette party, or help out with the wedding, it can cause drama. Some people even fire their BMs (ouch!)
Plus side: Help if you need it…if you’ve selected someone reliable, of course. That’s…uh…that’s really about it.
FWIW, OP, there are 80 people on my guest list (and we haven’t sent out invitations yet, so who knows…this might be a 60 person wedding). We chose not to have a wedding party, besides my young cousin, who will be the ring bearer. He’s going to hold my bouquet while we exchange rings. So, he’s sort of in place of the bridesmaid who would otherwise do that.
It was a big bonus because he’s the ONLY child who’s the right age to do that on both sides of the family. So, no competition. However, I have cousins and friends I really wanted to pick for a maid of honor or bridesmaid. But I knew my fiance’s sister would cause trouble and stomp her feet if she wasn’t selected.
She threw enough of a fit over the date I chose for the wedding. :d
Then again, I thought not picking a wedding party would save drama. When we went looking at our hall, the coordinator asked if we were having a wedding party. I told him no. Mother-In-Law looked at me in horror and asked, “You’re not?” I confirmed that. That was 6 months ago. Just a month ago, we were out to dinner again and she started asking who was going to be in our bridal party. I again told her we were not having one. She looked shocked.
So, she decided to ask Fiance behind my back “what had happened” that we weren’t having a wedding party. Honestly, it shocked me that there are people who are so traditional that it came as a slap in the face that we didn’t pick a wedding party. If I didn’t know Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law better, I’d just say that they asked because they were curious. Unfortunately, I know that behind the scenes, Future Sister-In-Law has probably had a mini-tantrum because she hasn’t been asked.
Now that she’s just had a baby, her attention will start to focus more on our wedding. That was one of the perks of her being pregnant. All eyes were on her and she was out of our hair! 😀
So, it can go both ways. You can also have drama if you DON’T select a wedding party.
Now Future Mother-In-Law is bringing up having witnesses to sign the marriage license. I’m asking my brother, and I told him he could ask whoever he wants (although, for political reasons, he should probably ask his sister). But, then again, I wouldn’t be shocked if she came back with: “Why can’t I just be the Maid of Honor?”
-_-‘ Note to self: should’ve eloped like I wanted to.