(Closed) Pros and Cons to No Bridal Party?

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Presque Isle

We didn’t have a bridal party due to the nature of my wedding. That’s a longish story. But I’m so glad we didn’t. My youngest sister stepped up to take my bouquet and that was it. I wouldn’t have had it any other way! 

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m not having a bridal party. I have plenty of meaningul friendships, but I don’t really have any friends who would clearly fit into a “best friend” tier. I felt awkward thinking about selecting them.

The only real con I can think of is if you’re really into the traditional bridesmaid type stuff beforehand–like trying on dresses together, having an out of town bachelorette party, etc. But even those you can do with non-bridesmaid friends.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  dances123.
Post # 33
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Newbee

I have a friend getting married in August who originally did not want a bridal party.  She changed her mind when we asked if she really wanted to be getting ready for the ceremony alone.  It’s a moment you want to celebrate and share with those close to you.  Mimosas in the morning for one is just not fun.  Now my friend has a bridal party and that’s all they’re there for… to be with her on her big day.  She’s taking care of everything else just like she wanted to (bachelorette party, etc.), and only enlisting help from her bridesmaids if she kows the request is going to be easy peasy.  Of course they would all do so much more if asked…

Post # 34
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Busy bee

We are having one Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man. Both family members and it is perfect!

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I’ve recently contemplated not having a Bridal party for our wedding.

 

My Boyfriend or Best Friend was in both of his older brother’s weddings, and they expect to be in ours although he doesn’t really want them there and would rather have his friends. On top of that, 90% will be traveling for our wedding, so I feel that that is enough of an expense right there!

 

Also I’ve been asked to be in 2 for 2015, which i’m excited for evern though they’re expensive, and then the bride of a 3rd assumed i would be in hers and I had to say no.. talk about awkward.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

I’m having a man of honor and my Fiance is having a best man. Any of my girlfriends are welcome to help me get ready and to hang out, but I don’t see why they should incur any additional expense after traveling. Hotel,etc in order to do that.

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2016

In defense of the bridal party, I will say if you are planning on having some events (shower, bachelorette, brunch, etc.) thrown for you by your friends, having a bridal party makes that expectation easier. When you ask someone to be a bridesmaid, they know what they are getting into. Not asking anyone to help and then expecting people to help can lead to some drama.<br /><br />One of my best friends recently got married and didn’t want a bridal party, but still wanted a shower and bachelorette party and for us to be with her during the day. My friends and I wound up spending a good amount of time, money, and time off of work to support her and would have actually prefered to be honored by being bridesmaids.

<br />If you truly don’t wan the extra events, then I wouldn’t think theres too many cons, but asking for all the extra work can be a little tricky. Also – I don’t think it is a common practice to pay for EVERYTHING for the bridesmaids. I’ve been in a few weddings and always paid for my own transportation, dress, hair and makeup. You can always find ways to make things easier for them (letting them wear their own shoes, or do their own make up if they want, picking an inexpensive dress, etc.)

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I only had one girl, my Maid/Matron of Honor. I told her to wear whatever dress she wanted, and hair/makeup was up to her. She was fine. She gave me a shower too, even though I said she didn’t have to. Turned out, the day I said that, she had just mailed invitations!

Hubby had a Best Man who wasn’t required to do anything except plan what he would wear. He managed to get by, lol.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

mireisen:  I skipped a bridal party and it was the best decision.   We had a small 50 person wedding.  I still seated my would-be Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man in the front row and paid for their hair and makeup so they could have a treat on our wedding day but there was no standing, no dresses, no other traditional Bridesmaid or Best Man “requirements.”   It was drama free and awesome.  I never liked the look of 5 or 6 people awkwardly standing next to you when you take your vows.  It’s distracting, to me, even as a guest.

I see no pros to have a bridal party.   You can still take pictures with these people, still find a way to include them, sit them at a special table, etc…

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Also worth noting – 

I had no bridal party but people still threw me a bachelorette and shower.   If those things are important to you – don’t think that you have to have a Bridal Party just go get those.  Heck – I’ve seen Bee’s on here that had bridal parties and none of their BM’s offered.   

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Best thing about no bridal party is no drama that many brides to be post here about 

Post # 42
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Helper bee

Actually,  telling my friends that I didn’t want a bridal party caused more drama than I thought it would be to pick and choose between them.  FI really wants a bridal party though,  so at least the drama has made the choosing easier. 

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

At this point, I don’t want a bridal party. I think a few of my good friends will want to hang beforehand, as well as the day of. But the choice of what they do and to what extent is completely up to them. They can wear any or all of the colors if they like!

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