(Closed) Pros/Cons of finding out baby’s gender…

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Are you going to find out your baby's gender?
    YES, Of course! : (92 votes)
    54 %
    Defnitely not, we want to be surprised! : (37 votes)
    22 %
    I'm not sure yet. : (41 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I found out for both girls. There are no cons, IMO. I didn’t need the extra “surprise!” when she was born, having her was enough of an experience πŸ˜€

    Post # 4
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    the only con i can think of is if they got the gender wrong, but they usually figure that out before you deliver! i would never be able to deal with the suspense of not knowing.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Theres no way I could wait to find out. I have zero patience and it would drive me crazy not to know.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1220 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I don’t get waiting for the surprise.  You’re either going to get a surprise at 5 months or one at 9 months.  

    Post # 7
    Member
    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We found out.  I’m a planner and wanted to plan accordingly.  Plus, I’m so impatient and can never wait to find out surprises. πŸ™‚

    Post # 8
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    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We didn’t find out.  πŸ™‚  It just wasn’t a big deal for us to know beforehand; although I know it’s opposite for a lot of people. 

    Post # 10
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    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @hilsy85: See, for me it’s not even about buying stuff like gender appropriate clothing, it was more like, “Okay sister, I’m having a boy, so give me all the hand me downs you’ve got, please don’t give them away!” LOL 

    Post # 11
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    447 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We did find out, but I sometimes wish that we had not. The big con for me was that once we had an idea of what the gender was (they couldn’t tell for sure), everybody just took off with it. I’m very anti-pink, and it seemed that nobody was listening to that fact. I have so much pink that it’s ridiculous. I would rather have said we wanted it to be a surprise so we could have received the gender neutral clothes that we wanted.

    Otherwise, there are only pros. You can buy clothes, bedding, car seat, stroller, and everything with that gender in mind. If you’re having a girl and want pink, you can get pink. If you’re having a boy and want sports themed, you can go for it.

    If you really don’t care and just want gender neutral, I would just choose not to find out.

    Post # 13
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    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @camrie: We felt the same way about names, it’s nice to have more of a focus!

    @Superstitions: I feel you on the pink, when people were hoping it was going to be a girl, we were already swimming in pink gifts and I hate pink!

    Post # 14
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    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We both want to be surprised! I love gender-neutral colors and themes and just love the idea of hearing, “It’s a …..” during the delivery. I totally understand why so many want to know the gender, but I’ve always wanted to be surprised and luckily, my husband feels the same way.

    Post # 15
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    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Right now, not being pregnant & not even close:

    1) I HATE WAITING. The 5 hour wait from Fiance getting home with the ring & proposing nearly drove me insane. One Christmas I went through all the gifts & opened them & then taped them back up. Waiting 40 weeks to find out wtf is inside me? Nada. I’d go completely bonkers.

    2) I kind of feel that the time you’re pushing out a 7lb human being through a 10cm hole is NOT the time to go “OH LOOK GIRL/BOY!” Just, no. There’s so much more going on at that time.

    3) Finding out the gender makes it more “real” and would probably intestify the bond for my Fiance.

    That being said, I have no idea when/if I’m pregnant if I’ll change my mind.

    Post # 16
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    2463 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i will definitely want to know–i’m terrible at surprises, super super impatient, and i’m a researcher by profession and need to find everything out i possibly can! haha. to me it’s not about the gender so much as it is just that i’ll want to know everything i can about the baby as soon as i can. like, we’ll get gender-neutral nursery things and clothes regardless. i’ll just want to know for knowing’s sake πŸ™‚

    Post # 17
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    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think I will want to wait to find out for the first one… I don’t know I think there is something special about waiting… But I can’t guarantee after the first one that I would want to wait again. πŸ˜‰

    Post # 18
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    1306 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Cons:  If people know it’s a girl all they bring  to the shower is PINK clothing, PINK bottles, PINK blankets, PINK EVERYTHING. My nieces room looks like it was coated in pepto-bismal.

    If we have kids, we might find out and keep it to ourselves. 

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