Post # 1
Good morning all,
I originally did not want to get my rings soldered together. I inherited them, and they were not soldered together, which makes them much easier for me to use – and if I pass them on to someone, I would like them to have that benefit as well. Also, a friend of mine inerited rings that were soldered, and when they were separated for use during her engagement, the bands were ruined and had to be re-formed.
Do you have your rings soldered? Are you glad you do? Are you planning on getting them soldered?
What are the pros and cons, in your opinion?
And, just for fun… a pic of the ering 🙂 (I inerited it from my great aunt – vintage 1950s, 14K white gold w/ a .43 carat brilliant cut diamond in an illusion setting, surrounded by six .4 carat stones, appraised at $2,600. love it. The wedding band matches, with nine .4 carat stones, appraised at $800. All diamonds are color F-G w/ V1-V2 clarity. I like to say that my fiance and I “saved” $3,600 with our “free” bridal set. ha!)
Post # 3
I will not be getting mine soldered.
I love my engagement ring, but the solitaire stone stick up high and currently there are things I do not wear it for, because of how high it sticks up.
I always take it off when at the barn dealing with the horses and riding. When I have my wedding band, I will wear that all the time and add my e-ring when not at the barn or doing other “hands on” type things.
Fiance and I also travel a lot, and my e-ring would draw some unwanted attention in certain areas of the world, so for trips like that the e-ring would stay home in a safe and I’d only wear a wedding band.
I also like the idea of having versatility and adding different bands to the ring throughout the years.
I like bands on both sides of my ring, but not all the time. I like matching bands with all diamonds, but also bands with different colored stones.
I also like to be able to wear my e-ring on my right hand and band on my left if I wish.
Mostly I like the versatility that have a separate band and e-ring affords you.
Post # 4
I know there are pros to soldering, but I haven’t really even looked into it because I always want to have the option to wear my wedding band by itself occasionally. I like that I have two rings, not one.
Post # 5
@Neva: Exactly! I agree completely.
I will not be doing this because I know there will be many times I want to wear my wedding band seperately.
Post # 6
I won’t be soldering mine either. I don’t like to wear my e-ring when I’m working out, snowboarding, etc.
Post # 7
to be honest, i don’t see the benefit of soldering. but i could be missing something (i often do haha)
Post # 8
I was looking into getting my rings soldered because my wedding band is a contour band and if it moves the slightest bit then it just doesn’t look right with my engagement ring. But if I get them soldered I can never wear just my wedding band (which I wouldn’t do because I already don’t like my wedding band) But I’m still in between as well.
Post # 9
Honestly it never even occurred to me to wear just a wedding band later on. Nurrr. My parents didn’t have an engagement ring, so my mom always wears only a wedding ring, so I don’t know why I didn’t think of it. That brings a lot more into the equation.
Post # 11
I actually decided to “wait and see” what I would do. I read a lot of pros and cons… but decided that until I know how they work IRL I would wait.
I made it less than a week before taking them to get soldered!
They spun, they rubbed together, they were beyond frustrating to deal with apart. The rubbing already had worn down my bands rhodium to almost nothing. They just didn’t work well apart. Now that they are soldered they don’t spin, they always look perfectly nice, match right, and don’t bug me at all.
I would just wait it out. If you don’t need to then don’t worry about it. If you need too… then get it done. I got a faux band for my honeymoon and I just wear that when working out or doing something I want to be cautious about.
Post # 12
So, I don’t plan on getting my rings soldered, but the problem is I don’t want my wedding band to start scratching at the metal of my engagement ring or vice versa (I think this is why a lot of people get their rings soldered together). I talked to the jewler this past weekend actually and what she recommended (I’m not sure if this is possible with ALL rings, but my ering is a solitaire so she said it would be no problem) is putting a small pin on one ring and a very small hole on the other so that you can have them tacked together and they won’t rub or twist, but you can still wear them apart when you want. The hole was so small I couldn’t notice it unless I looked for it, and you couldn’t see at all when the rings were on the finger seperately or when they were together (on or off). The pin can be filed off and the hole can be filled if you ever change your mind and want to solder them together or want to pass them down seperately. I’m not sure if all jewlers can do this, but it sounded like a perfect happy medium to me!
Additionally if it’s jus the twisting you’re having a problem with and your ring isn’t a full eternity band, i HIGHLY recommend having a euro shank. My engagement ring is a euro shank, and it never twists.
Post # 13
I don’t really see the benefit of soldering them together, except maybe that once you do its a little wider and will sit and fit better. I’m not going to cause I want the flexibility of wearing the band alone for any reason.
Post # 14
Great ring! I actually don’t have an opinion on the soldering but wanted to comment on the ring 🙂
Post # 15
I have 3 bands and they don’t cause problems. They fit very well and don’t rub or spin, though. My moms’ are soldered together, though. There have been instances where i wear just a wedding band and it’s a nice option versus the thickness of the 3 rings i typically wear. I’d wait and see how the ring wears and what you think after a week. I’m really glad I didn’t solder mine.
Post # 16
I have really tiny fingers, and getting a wedding band, but I doubt I will wear both very much, so I am not soldering. My engagement ring is a sentimental one, and my wedidng band matches it, and Fiance wedding band, but i look like a little kids playing dress up with that much on one finger.
My sister doesnt have hers soldered and it moves a bit, but she doesnt seem to mind it, and is like me, doesnt wear them together a huge amount, so I dont think the wearing down has been a problem.
(maybe we are just weird)