(Closed) Providing transportation for locals?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It is not your responsibility to provide transportation for anyone. It is kind of you to do it for OOT’s, but even that is not necessary.

Presumably your guests are adults, and likely get themselves to and from other social engagements all the time.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@chixor99:  I think I would be at least a little insulted if you took it upon yourself to tell me how I should get safely to and from your wedding.  LA is not the only city in the world where people may live a significant distance from the wedding venue.

We go out to dinner and other social events that involve alcohol, all the time. We decide ahead of time if one of us is going to be the designated driver, if we are going to take a cab both ways, or if we are going to drive to the event, leave the car there and take a cab home. Sometimes we get a hotel room near the venue.

The most I would suggest is that you include a little blurb on your website if you are having one. Otherwise I would feel like you are acting  in a more parental role than necessary.

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with PP, it’s not your responsibility to provide transportation for your guests. You’re already providing transportation for your Out of Town guests. 

Trust me, they can figure it out on their own. I have gone to plenty of weddings and we always drive (no other option really) and there’s always someone who can’t drink for whatever reason and they’re the Dirty Delete. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think you need to…we ALWAYS stay in the hotel, no matter how local we are, so we can drink at the wedding and not have to drive home. They can pay for their own cab or stay in the hotel themselves!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The smart guests will stay at hotels with the out-of-towners and be able to party AND get home safely.  I think it’s actually kinda fun to stay at hotels even when my own home is like… 15 miles away.  🙂 

To answer your question, I agree with PP.  It’s not your responsibility to arrange for transportation for each and every guest, whether they live nearby or not.  It’s so thoughtful and kind of you to try, though. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We always get hotel rooms for weddings, unless it’s within cab distance. Neither of us would want to be a Dirty Delete for a wedding, and for one night, it’s really not a big deal. Are you mentioning on the wedding web site, or in a direction/accommodation card that you’re offering the transportation?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i will be providing transportation for all guests, no matter where they are from. I know i don’t HAVE to, but if one of my  guests had an accident for drunkdriving after leaving my wedding, where I provided the alcohol, i would never forgive myself, even if it everyone’s own responsibility. If i can avoid this on my wedding day i will, i will not be remembered on every anniversary that someone important died that day because i didn’t want to spend a bit more.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You could see if some of the hotels where Out of Town guests would allow for your in town guests to park for free or for a reduced fee so they can jump on the shuttles with the Out of Town guests.

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