Post # 1
What is the ettiquite, here?
I am going to look at a venue about 1.5 hours away from our church this weekend, and I think it might be the one. That just seems a little extensive of a drive, don’t you think?? I have spoken to people who said 1/2 hours away isn’t anything, but I’ve never had to travel more than 30 min to a reception – I think if I did, I’d be annoyed! LOL
On the other hand, we are having a small wedding of probably 80 tops, and we are close to everyone. Therefore, I want everyone to come and not feel ostricized by the distance!
Post # 3
@BurlapnLace: You know your guests and if that would be ok etc… How much time do you have in between the ceremony and reception ? Are you doing any cocktails / ordevres in between ?
My ceremony and reception is at the same location and we have 1.5 hours in between of coctails.
Post # 4
Uffta! Thats kinda far. You of course know your guests the best and if its your dream venue go for it. I know that once I had to drive 45 minutes inbetween venues and I found it annoying but thats just me 🙂 Start a poll.
Post # 5
that’s a far way to expect people to drive. for a close friend or family member i would do it but wouldn’t be happy about it.
i’ve only been to one wedding (10 years ago) where there were 2 locations, everthing else has been in the same location for ceremony and reception.
but you know your guests best.
Post # 6
Wait, you mean it’s .5 hours away not 1.5 right? I think 30 minutes would be the MAX driving distance. It’s going to depend on your guests though. I’m from the rural Midwest so a 30 minute drive is nothing to me, but if you have more city/suburban guests they might think otherwise.
Post # 7
30 minutes is fine, maybe 45.
But an hour and a half? That’s way over the line, in my opinion.
If you’re guests would be OK with it, go for it. But if I was a guest, I would not be OK with it, and might just skip it.
Post # 8
I think it depends how far the Church is from most of your guest….if it’s like 10 min away, I don’t think 1.5 hours to the venue is so bad. It’s the addition of the ride to the church that you have to think about. I have rode 2 hours to some weddings. My ceremony is 1hour-1hour and 15 min away from most of my guest, some are coming out of town so it’s way farther. But my ceremony is a 2 minute walk to the reception.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
That seems super far. Could you have the ceremony there too? Then it might be worth it.
Post # 10
Wow, an hour and a half? That’s really far, not gonna lie. I have been stressing myself to death over the fact that the venue we love is 30 minutes away from the church…
Post # 11
Not to mention, wouldn’t that dramatically increase the price of the limo(s) (which I might add, is one of the things at the bottom of my list!!)
I could have the ceremony at the venue, but I know my mom would love (and I would “like”) to get married in the church. Here’s the catch: my fiance and I are new to our town and not even really established with this church so it’s up for debate!
Basically…I want to get married in a church, I don’t care where (as long as it’s Roman Catholic) but can you do such a thing? Show up at a church like, “Heeeyyy, I’m not a parishoner but can we get married here?” I don’t believe so. But who knows…this is my first time doing this lol so I have no idea.
1.5 hours is excessive, agreed. Need to find a way around that! Thanks for the input!
Post # 12
@BurlapnLace: i don’t know how the church works. but we rabbi shopped for the rabbi to marry us. both FI and I are conservative jews and rabbis in the conservative movement don’t drive during shabbat.
we wanted to get married before sundown so we needed to find a reform rabbi to marry us. we could use the synogogue and then travel to the reception. but most rabbis travel to the location. we are using the atrium at our venue as the ceremony site. in jewish weddings, usually the ceremony and reception are at the same site using differernt rooms.
call the churches around your venue and see what they charge.
Post # 13
@BurlapnLace: you neeed to let the parish know 6 mos in advance