Post # 32
Hey girls. Due to a very long illness last year, I went from my normally athletic body (around about a US size 8-10/UK 10-12 plus quite a bit of toning from being very active) to a US 12-14/UK 16. It’s pretty depressing not being able to wear any of my clothes! I’m well now, but really struggling to lose this weight as I’ve never had to diet before or work out more than I usually do.
Trying on wedding dresses was heartbreaking, especially since I don’t have enough time to get a professional dress made. I’ve had to hit sample sales. None are in my size!
Would I be considered a plus size bride at this point? I want to love the skin I’m in, but to be honest I simply don’t because I’ve never been this weight before and I can’t wear any of my clothes. I always had a bit of curve before and LOVED it. I don’t see myself as crazily overweight, but after trying on new clothes and going wedding dress shopping, I think I must be bigger than I feel I am. Some of the girls I’ve seen call themselves plus size don’t look like they are at all!
Any advice for a girl trying to suck this tummy in? Or anyone who can comiserate about the way bridal dresses make you feel like a whale?
I’ve put a photo up of me trying on a sample dress that was thankfully a bit too big. Bear in mind, it was an 8am sample sale and I hadn’t had any coffee or put makeup on! I’ve also lost about 5lbs since then.
Also, how have you girls deal with back flab peeking over the back of your dress? This is driving me crazy!
Post # 33
Hunny you are definitely not a “whale” and to be very blunt: i would take “fat” over dead any day! Be excited about life and marrying the man that you love rather than harp on the fact that your waist line has expanded. The trouble you have described with your dresses sound like an issue of fit and dress style rather than your body type. For example, I would go strapless rather than the look you have above which can make a bulky affect up top. Also, go for a corset back so you can sinch your dress in the perfect amount for your shape and not have any “spillage” in back. Once you try some different things you will be fine! Happy shopping 🙂
Post # 34
@MrsPeterson86: You rock, simple as that.
I’m not a plus size bride myself (whatever that even means-it’s all just numbers) but I definitely have the same issues with my body and dresses fitting correctly. I think it’s pretty universal for every bride.
So hat’s off to you, for setting me straight and giving my inner bully a firm talking-to!
Post # 35
Thank you for your words, it is really needed right now as I am starting to try on dresses for my wedding. being a size 16 to getting pregnant and gaining 70lbs during it and not being able to lose any of it, i need/needed it at the time.
Post # 36
Thanks! Glad I could help 🙂
Post # 37
love it! You ladies look beautiful!
Post # 38
LOVE this post! I’m a street size 20 at first I was like eh, i’ll lose some weight- never did. Big deal? not so much. He met me at an 18 and loved me through a 20. I just had to find a dress that did my curves some justice and I found her.
Post # 39
I love this….I’ve been putting off dress shopping because…well…I feel ugh! You ladies all look amazing!!!!
Post # 42
Thank you for this post I agree and you have amazing points. I didn’t lose a pound for my wedding and when people asked me about it I told them that there was no way I was going to plan a wedding in 10 months on a budget and only drink juice in the meantime, f that i’m having pizza and beer.
“If you can’t love yourself how the hell are you going to love anyone else”
Post # 43
I want to tone my arms a little bit for the wedding, but I love your post. I am so lucky that no one has even hinted at me losing weight, they know that I am healthy and happy and take good care of myself. I love my dress and think its super flattering, its an 18 and I am a 14/16 street size.
Post # 44
I think this is an amazing and inspirational post!! So well done OP for standing up to uniformity and saying EVERY GIRL IS DIFFERENT! Love yourself, your Fiance obviously loves you or he wouldn’t be marrying you!! Have a look through a wedding magazine – ALL of the models are practically identical and just blend into the background. On this post EVERY SINGLE ONE of you ladies are GORGEOUS and UNIQUE! You all command attention and draw the eye just as much as your dress does!
And just to throw my own into the mix, I am a UK size 16/18 and didn’t feel anything less than a Princess, because my Prince could not take his eyes off me all day and night (36DD chest and all!)
Post # 45
That black and white photo should have a place of honor in your home, it is stunning! Congratulations, you look great!
Post # 46
When I told my Fiance I bought my dress bigger than the size I am now (to accomodate my boobs, really, but still, they’re defintely going to have to take some in), he was like “YAY! So now you won’t have to freak out about losing weight to fit some dress?” The best possible response. I love my body, he loves my body, what could be better?