Post # 1
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Busy bee
I’m not a doctor so obviously this might not be the same for everyone but I tried a softcup and while the insertion and time it was inside was great and way better than a tampon – I had a pretty bad experience getting it out.
PS: google softcup if you aren’t familiar
Too Much Information ahead:
I spent two hours trying to remove the softcup – on the toilet like they say, in the shower, squatting, bearing down, laying down and I even asked poor Fiance to use a condom as a glove and help (and he is not cool with sex during my period etc so it was a lot to ask) but while I could feel it, and even hook my finger on it, I could not get it out!
I finally gave up and went to urgent care and had to pay $150 to get it out because my deductible hadn’t been met. Not what I needed 1.5 months before the wedding but I had to get it out (and I am studying for the bar exam so I can’t lose a whole day stressing overit!)
Anyways the doc had never seen/used/dealt with it before and she used a speculum to see inside but said she couldn’t see it . That made me freak out
Too Much Information: I literally had to have her stick a finger in me while I sat on the edge of the examining table, use a lot of strenth and her fingernail to get it out. I don’t know if it was succtioned to my cervix or just practically vertical because i have a tilted uterus/tilted cervix.
I wish I knew it may not be suitable for women with this condition! While it was great initially – it is not for me!
has this happened to any other bees?
also, I was going to ask my gyno for a diaphragm as a nonhormonal nonIUD birth control option since after years of sex with a condom, I wanted to have sex with my husband without one! But I’m afraid now that it won’t be in the cards.
Do diaphragms work with a tilted uterus?
Just figured others could benefit from my experience and I could get advice.
Post # 2
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Helper bee
I’m sorry you had this bad experience but mine is tilted and I have never had a problem in 10years. What brand cup did you use?
Post # 3
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552 posts
Busy bee
yumcheez
I used instead. Maybe there’s hope then! But I think I put it in right (didn’t feel it at all after insertion) so I’m not sure what the issue was.
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This reply was modified 6 years, 6 months ago by
Firework.
Post # 4
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2013 posts
Buzzing bee
OMG yikes! That sounds completely traumatizing. I have a retroverted/tilted uterus as well, and I’ve used the DivaCup for the past 4 months with no issues. It’s not exactly the same as a Soft Cup, but similar. I wonder if you also have a high cervix, which may have contributed to the problem?? I don’t know, but I’m so sorry you went through that. 🙁
Post # 5
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331 posts
Helper bee
Firework: ive never had an issue with mine but also many of these cups dont need to be placed right up against the cervix. They are actually designed to sit down lower in your vagina so its easier to grab and form a better seal when places lower. The suction really shouldnt be bad enough to not break with a small pinch at the bottom.
Post # 6
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538 posts
Busy bee
- Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC
Firework: OMG! That is awful. I only started using a menstrual cup recently, last week as a matter of fact. As far as I know I do not have a tilted uterus, I would think have been told in one of my pregnancies at least.
Anyway, this is very scary!
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
You are probably going to think I am a complete asshole for this, and I really do feel for you having to go through this because it sounds awful, but I laughed way more than I should have. I know it wasn’t funny for you, but I was just picturing someone sitting there with their doc trying to get this out. I thought of the show “sex sent me to the er”. I really am sorry you had to go through this and I hope you find a solution in the near future!
Post # 8
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552 posts
Busy bee
Thank you ladies for your sympathy!
bbbria – I have a check up in a few weeks so I will ask the doc about the high cervix then.
Tanleggedjuliet – thanks.
ksn1219 – I understand. I totally thought of that show as well. Actually I had originally looked into the cups because I was supposed to get my period during the honeymoon (but I was a bit later this month so that’s avoided) but I looked into it as a way to have sex easier while on my period so it really could have been a sex sent me to the ER moment!! So glad I tried it in advance and not in another country/on my honeymoon!! But having the doctor have to use her finger instead of a medical device was the epitome of awkward.
Post # 9
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1327 posts
Bumble bee
I had this happen to me too with Softcup. Long story short, I did manage to get it out but not without completely freaking out and almost calling my SO for help. Never trying it again, it was terrifying, no thank you.
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This reply was modified 6 years, 6 months ago by Genuine513.
Post # 10
Hostess
8572 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
Hasn’t happened to me, but something very similiar happened to my mom with one of those contraceptive sponges. She had to ask her husband to help fish it out, and even then it still took a good hour or two of freaking out.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
Don’t know about a diaphragm but I’ve been using the Nuvaring so we can be condom free. It’s 99.9% effective, which I have heard is actually more effective than a diaphragm, but you’d want to check that with your doctor of course. It is hormonal but I have had a great experience with Nuvaring!
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
Omg no this has never happened to me! You should post on the livejournal menstrual cups forums, they have the most comprehensive coverage of menstrual cups ever. But, I might have misunderstood, did you want to use a cup so you could have sex with it while on your period? If so, serious no no, although some of the ladies at livejournal will swear they’ve done it and nothing bad happened it does push it waaaay in and makes it a lot harder to get out… I’ve used a diva cup and a lunette for years now wo a problem and would never ever go back to tampons or (shudder) regular pads btw so I’m a hardcore user. However, I have learned to take it out before I pee (I’m prone to UTIs), or have shower sex! 😉
Post # 13
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Busy bee
They say on almost all the packaging not to use if you have a Tilted uterus.
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
Oh my gosh, ouch! I also have a tilted uterus and have used the Diva Cup for over two years now without any problems. There is definately hope! When I was reseaching brands I picked Diva because they have a special one for women that have never given birth.
I found YouTube videos on different folding styles to be really helpful when first starting out, so that might be worth a try if you decide to give it another go!
Post # 15
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Busy bee
How on earth do you know if you have a tilted uterus? Genuinely, now I’m wondering about my uterus.